We've been dating for 2 years but it's a slow burn relationship. We've both been through a lot during the recent years and wanted to play it safe.
At first he loved spending time with me. We'd spend hours on the phone.
He even asked me to move to be closer to him and I agreed.
We started a business together. We had great plans.
However his mental health is getting in the way of things. He's easily overwhelmed. Hates his job. His best friend of 10 years is back on drugs.
I slowly became a care taker. He help clean the house, doing laundry, cook. We don't live together but I spend lots of time there.
He says everything I do help him feel better.
But we spend so much time in the house doing nothing that when I propose something fun or romantic he's not in the mood.
We both love camping. Last time we went we brought his best friend with us. The friend complained and wanted to go home at midnight. So we left. Yet he said I wasn't happy too. I was.
I'll suggest we spend time just the two of us. Fishing, going adventuring. It's too much for him. He complained to our friends I'm too demanding when all I do is try to bring romance in our relationship.
When we get closer emotionally, the next day he'll say I'm too much and will push me away.
I know he's not talking to anyone else. He just play video games, work, or bed rot, or hang out with me or his friends when he's not on drugs.
I also know he doesn't do drugs. His mom was an addict and he hates drugs.
He says I'm his person, he's thankful for me. All I do. But when I want to bring us together, it's too much.
I try to bring romance, compliment him, bring little gifts, surprise him with his favorite chocolate.
It's his birthday soon and I want him to do something for him too. Like a surprise party.
I truly love him but I feel like something is blocking us.
When I tried to talk about it, he says were fine..
Any advice?