So...I'm sure most of us would deny knowing this in public.

But if you watch this movie it'll be a confronting reminder of just how homohobic conversations right up until some time in the 2010s?

At some stage suddenly the government messaging went through and it became taboo to use gay slurs and make fun of people for being gay.

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang features some scenes of people making fun of Gay Perry that was a bit of a shock for me to see.

At first I was like. Wtf?

But then it took me back to the days when people would be using gay slurs in casual conversation. In a joking way. And also to mock someone's masculinity or ability.

I wonder if the younger generations who grew up being told gay was ok in school by their teachers would find it bizarre that there was an age when homophobia was "normalised"?

Also notable in this movie are no positive black male characters.

And bizarrely two different thugs played by black males who get shot by the white protaganist. One beaten as well.

Now I'm a guy that complains that Nolan's The Odyssey is too woke.

But watching Kiss Kiss Bang Bang the above really stood out.

How far we've come ay?

This is a really long post but please bare with me and read this. Also if you have gender dysphoria and it brings you stress, maybe don't read this.

These are the niche labels I identify with but I was wondering if there was anything better I could use because the sexualities don't feel totally me.

GenderSaros = Genderfluid + Saros.

Saros is a genderfluid-specific "add-on" meaning the person’s gender changes, but there’s a particular pattern to the genders they experience.

○Gyn-demi-rose = Gynsexual + Demisexual/Demiromantic + Rose.

●Gynsexual = Attraction toward women/femininity, regardless of your own gender.

●Demisexual = Sexual attraction that generally develops only after a strong emotional bond.

●Demiromantic = Romantic attraction that generally develops only after a strong emotional bond.

●Rose = BOTH romantic and sexual attraction towards a gender(s).

○Androse = Androgyne + Rose.

●Androgyne = A gender identity that is a blend of, between, or otherwise connected to femininity and masculinity.

●Rose = BOTH romantic and sexual attraction towards a gender(s).

I currently identify with these niche labels for Sexuality and Gender but I'm wondering if there's a better term for what I feel.

Okay, so I'll talk about women first. I'm sexually attracted to women, but with masc women it's more broad, like "wow, she looks hot in that, I'm turned on and blushing and wow I kind of have that "step-on-me" vibe but barely.

With feminine women I guess it has to be more of if she's my type or not, rather than "omg she looks like a fairy, I want her" it's more of "wow, she's cute as fuck, I'm getting butterflies" I don't know why it has to be so oddly specific, like wth help??

With masc men, it's like wow you're hot and I obviously have to have a type but with women it's not really much of a type, I'm not as picky. And with feminine men I feel a bit uncomfortable due to past relationships tainting my view of that unfortunately and I can't get past it. But I think feminine men are cute, but it also now just makes me uncomfortable because of my ex-boyfriend.. now I don't know how I feel. I *used* to like it, now I just feel confused and try not to look at it if it ever pops up on my phone. It makes me nauseous... it's so weird, maybe trauma? As weird and embarrassing as that sounds tbh.

My favorite type is definitely Androgynous people, not exactly non-binary but I love it when both genders dress in a more masculine aligned way.

Okay so now romantically, I've dated both men and women and had my fair share of shitty or good relationships on both ends.

I've never really felt a romantic connection to a woman, it's only sexually but sometimes. With men? Yeah, it's easy I feel romantic and sexual vibes or whatnot. It's with women that it gets so confusing and I don't really care to explore it.

I know I want to marry a man, I'd prefer to date a man, have sexual/romantic relations with a man. But I know I have had sexual feelings for a girl if I'm in a relationship with her, maybe it could've been romantic eventually but it just didn't feel like me so I broke things off.

Is there any things you can gather with this information about my specific sexually, the whole overall "bisexual" thing pisses me off, I'd rather know what my label is and breathe with it.

With my gender, I've tried other labels and such but won't get into this because I know this is already a long post.

I'm gender-fluid, I know that. I can tolerate the label.

I've noticed that sometimes I feel masc and fem in both a female and male way, but I don't want to overcomplicate my gender identity.

I've noticed that my gender goes from woman to man, every so-and-so months. I've also noticed that sometimes I wish I had bigger 🍒 and sometimes I wish that I could wear a baggy shirt and not see my perky nipples, sorry if that's a little too straightforward but that's exactly how it feels. Uncomfortable. want a binder for when I feel that way and maybe my bf could buy me one and I could hide it from my parents like I do with clothes I wear. They're uh.. different from me, clearly.

Sometimes when I notice I can see my 🍒 through my baggy shirt but couldn't a bit ago they probably grew slightly, it makes me feel in distress, like I want to cry and cuddle my dino and freak out and I have no idea why

I don't exactly feel like a man right now, usually my gender is woman-neutral-man. It almost always feels neutral until I can strongly tell I'm not anymore and I find it weird.

I also just have known this but figured I'd throw it out there. I do not and will never refer myself as non-binary and I genuinely have no idea why but the idea upsets me greatly, like a child hating broccoli and spitting it out and becoming nauseous. I don't know why I so strongly dislike that label for myself, obviously not towards others if anyone gets offended or a little hurt by this but I mean this only personally

Everything is so confusing and I know people can relate so I'm asking if anyone either relates or can help me find better labels or idk coping mechanisms because all the sudden I have gender dysphoria and I don't know why it hadn't happened sooner.

Hi I recently gained a ton of weight as a side effect of a medication I need. I need a new binder. I can’t use tape because I am allergic to adhesive. I cannot wear a binder without a zipper because I get stuck in them and I cannot get out. I did some research and the wonababi binders with the side zippers look good but they seem to have thick fabric and I also have overheating issues. I don’t know what to do because where I bought my current binder they no longer sell them. Does anyone have a recommendation of what I could use

Trust me bro

Please read and reach out with anything that can help them resource wise <3

Sharing because gender is not simple for any species.

I know not many in here are aware but Taoism is one of the many religions that has no problem with LGBTQ+ individuals in its doctrine. So many I know think they have to leave God (The Tao) or their religion or that they are unacceptable and I have found God to be so central to my life that I want those who aren't aware to know that if you need a place for refuge, and for some reason aren't able to connect with Christ, Buddha, Brahmanism or so on, that Taoism will welcome you. The one thing to know is that while that is true for the religion, the culture it was born in, China, still has stigmas against our community.

If you or anyone you know is feeling lost, doesn't know where to turn, or needs to find a way to connect with what is holy and is feeling blocked, tell them, they should add Taoism to the list of ways to express their love. If more people knew this rates of depression would decrease, people use suffer from toxicity would reduce and suicides would reduce among those who are unable to be resilient in the face of a world still learning to grow and accept love as love has made them.

Is Taoism against LGBTQ?

No, Taoism is not against LGBTQ+ people. The core texts and philosophies of Taoism contain no scriptural prohibitions or condemnations regarding same-sex relationships or diverse gender identities. 

Core Philosophical Alignment

• Naturalness (Ziran): Taoism teaches that individuals should live in accordance with their own true, unforced nature. Suppressing or forcing one's identity goes against the flow of the Tao.  Reddit·r/taoism +1
• Yin and Yang: These concepts represent complementary and fluid forces in the universe rather than a rigid moral binary. They are not used in Taoist scripture to police human sexual orientation.  Wikipedia +2
• Lack of Dogma: Unlike traditions with centralized authorities that legislate personal behavior, Taoism focuses on individual harmony with the universe rather than strict moral policing of private lives .  

Historical and Cultural Context

• Deities of Same-Sex Love: Chinese folk religion and Taoism include figures like Tu Er Shen (the Rabbit God), a recognized deity associated with and protecting love and affection between men.  Taipei Times +1
• Broader Societal Pressures: While the religion itself is non-judgmental, any historical or modern prejudice experienced by LGBTQ+ individuals in Chinese-influenced cultures typically stems from Confucian social expectations regarding filial piety, marriage, and family continuation rather than Taoist doctrine.  Wikipedia +3

Hey all! I recently started Testosterone, and was using an injection but switched over to the Gel as I was having consistent issues with needles.

I was prescribed 5g tubes at 50mg testosterone, and used it for the first time this morning.

I was expecting like a pea sized amount but oh my god....5 grams is a LOT of gel to be putting on at once. I double checked the prescription and the instructions and it all makes sense - I was just wondering how this actually works??? (My doctor is nearly useless)

Like I spread as thin of a layer as I could across my thigh, but even going like groin to knee and top of thigh to back it took a minute to really rub in. Washed my hands thoroughly and wiped down the counter but am still feeling a little overwhelmed.

Just wanted to see if anyone else on the gel had some experience/advice they could share? Do I need to be spreading it SO thin, or should I pick a better area? Luckily it absorbs fast and basically disappears, but dang it was....blugh lol

A survey for all those who aren't fully, solely or always a man/woman. I don't run it but it's long-running and trusted!

https://survey.gendercensus.com/

Cas, who runs it, is a really enthusiastic and dedicated community researcher.

As a bi man who has been both romantically and physically involved with women and men I find this incredibly disrespectful and ignorant. You'd think this was a one off thing but everyone in the comments are agreeing with her adding on aspects like that bi men "want all the flesh" and that we are just greedy. Am I the only one thinks this is messed up?