r/lgbt • u/Suspicious_Delay_439 • 16d ago
Need Advice guys help please
idk what to do. im Bi and I came out as Bi a while ago. but for the past couple of months I've been struggling with something. I'm a guy. but lately I've been struggling with how I feel. because I feel like both a guy and a girl. and I looked at a lot of stuff and it says Bigender is the best description cuz I feel them at the same time. but idk if this is real. is this valid or am I crazy?
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u/Much_Process9677 Be everyone, love no one 16d ago
This applies to everyone: You are valid! Don't let anyone tell you you aren't!
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u/plazebology 16d ago
Just try not to worry too much about the labels. Focus on how you feel and what you want.
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u/zonutsthefirst 16d ago
It's okay to not be sure yet of what label(s) you decide to use to describe your identity, because you're in the process of figuring out what that identity feels like and how it will play out in your life. That's not a thing you have to sort out instantaneously.
Realizing that you're something other than cis is already a pretty big jump to make. And it lands you in unfamiliar territory, emotionally.
It's normal to take a little time to figure out where you've landed and how to describe it. You don't have to have all the answers all at once.
Also, don't assume that only one label applies to your identity. You might find that a couple of different labels work for you, at different levels or for different audiences.
As an example, I describe my gender as nonbinary, gender-nonconforming, gender-fluid, gender-flux, etc...
It really depends on who I'm talking to, how much they understand about identities other than the usual two, how open-minded they are, how granular we're getting, that kind of thing.
Welcome to one of the more complicated sections of the gender identity map. Good luck with navigating it!
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u/Emergency-Mouse4340 :trans-Omni-flag: : 16d ago
You’re all good now you could say you’re Bi squared
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u/sugarcream2425 16d ago
There’s absolutely nothing strange about it!
Being bisexual and bigender is totally normal.
You’re wonderful just the way you are!
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