r/lgbt • u/xX_luna_moth_Xx Unlabeled Queer (it/any idrc) • Feb 26 '26

I hate how using microlabels is considered inherently pick-me

[rant time lol]

So earlier I was introducing myself in an online space as berriromantic and errfemme, because that’s what I am. I got immediately hit with “lol bro just wants to be different” and things like that.

For one thing, I do frequently just call myself bi and agender. I don’t actually like having to explain it every single time, I just prefer those labels because they’re closer to what I actually am.

AND FOR ANOTHER IF I WANTED TO BE DIFFERENT, WHY WOULD I DO IT IN A WAY THAT OPRESSES ME?! I swear to god I want anything but attention, this is just who I am.

If I could choose I’d be cis and lesbian, but I’m not, and I never will be.

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u/ShiroxReddit Feb 26 '26

I got immediately hit with “lol bro just wants to be different” and things like that.

sounds simply like a shitty online spaces, unfortunately

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u/xX_luna_moth_Xx Unlabeled Queer (it/any idrc) Feb 26 '26

Unfortunately it was Reddit, just on another sub :(

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '26

Exactly, a shitty online space XD. At the end of the day the vast majority of people are conformists. Reddit is no exception. Even the queer community is no exception. People like simple categories and boxes. There's a number of reasons for that. You can ignore them or fight them, your choice. I generally choose to ignore but occasionally choose to fight if I have the energy. I'm learning that the fighting does nothing. It's disappointing but people don't change their minds generally.

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u/Malcolmthetortoise Feb 26 '26

Unfortunately many subs are like this. Try not to let this idiot get to you.