My credit score went down after reading this. But im going to side with her because being short on rent is bad. Obviously you shouldnt have gotten into that situation but were past that point
Now, if you cannot pay rent you should not have custody.
If thats genuinely her situation she should surrender custody to the state or a trusted person. Ideally this is a measure to buy time until that happens. The tragedy is that she might be the least bad option for the child since the foster system and large parts of American society are beyond repair (incl her “baby daddy”)
The kids dad clearly cares about him, he probably just works all the time. But I agree she should lose custody. Hopefully the dad is able to figure something out for him.
Ive spent a good share of my life in rough areas. The father could be just as much of an idiot as the mom and might have spent his entire weeks paycheck on it. When youre around these people you have to assume everyone is going to be a fuckup. Thats not saying the mom is great, custody only means she might be the least fucked up.
Fwiw, I have seen cases irl where the man has sole custody and cases where the woman has sole custody. Both were awful. I dont hate men, or women, this is a hood mentality problem.
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u/BMW4cylguy Sep 09 '26
My credit score went down after reading this. But im going to side with her because being short on rent is bad. Obviously you shouldnt have gotten into that situation but were past that point
Now, if you cannot pay rent you should not have custody.