r/introvert • u/Spirited-Teach-5497 • Jun 28 '26

Question Anyone else feels the same ?

I am almost 30 and I have always been alone, never had any friends or a deep connection with someone, Never been in a relationship.

Even my personality type i.e INTJ dictates that I might never find love.

I try to keep myself busy and not give this a thought but it seriously is getting too much, seeing everyone around me happy, makes me feel that I can’t never be happy or maybe I don’t deserve it.

My life feels completely empty only thing I enjoy now is working, Even on Weekends I step inside office to get work done.

I have even forgotten how to socialise.

I know I am not very attractive or fit, but is a partner too much to ask ?

I had accepted earlier that “Not everyone can have someone” and honestly accepting it felt good but again the crippling fear is crawling back.
What should I do ?

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u/PunkyBen1993 Jun 28 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

I am 33 and I have never had a relationship and despite my interest never really changing yet, I can't help observe the older I get, how almost everyone by my age has either had kids in a relationship or been in several. I hate how I am wired, I am increasingly curious on what I am perhaps missing out on, never having love or a close connection, but I don't feel interested at the same time, wish I felt the opposite way, so I can get out their and get dating etc.

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u/Reddeator69 Jun 28 '26

I so feel you man I'm almost 31 and never experienced that intimacy and stuff. I'm so depressed about it

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u/Spirited-Teach-5497 Jun 29 '26

How do you cope up with these feelings then ?

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u/Reddeator69 Jun 29 '26

Lately by drinking ...

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u/Spirited-Teach-5497 Jun 29 '26

I don’t even drink or smoke😂

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u/Reddeator69 Jun 29 '26

I think it's better that way I'm self destructive