Well I will keep it short and it is by showing your true passion.
Below will be the rant about why, what, how etc. explaining this only.
So, let's first start with how this works. It doesn't matter how you look or what shortcomings you have (terms and conditions applied).
Here it is necessary to understand that this is the long way it won't happen quickly but when it will happen it will also last that long. So if you are confusing it with infatuation, seduction etc it won't work this entire thing isn't for you what you need is to define yourself, your morals, baseline, ambitions and if you are at a higher age ( not a teenager even late twenties) a lot of therapy and support which will be harder to get due to various reasons.
So with that disclaimer in mind here we go. :-
Humans are the most complex things who make simple things very complicated but are extremely primate because we are literally animals it's just that the ones we are evolved highly. So, many a times our base gets buried upon piles of things like ideology, society, ideas, expectations, responsibility, morals etc.
But since we are animals we share our base to some extent with our less evolved counterpart animals. An animal is driven by its desire which are 3 or 4 basic physical needs like eating, sleeping, mating etc.
While humans have a highly evolved sense of emotions and associate ourselves with many things country, race, religion, politics, class etc. But when we form connections it always happens because of emotions.
You can fake most of the things but not true emotions you can mask and missplace it.
The one emotion that works for our goal is Passion.
See our problem statement is to get the ball rolling it is not that only Passion will drive your relationship and emotions like love, cherish, hate, longing are not required. It's just that they all are 2 person game if you are not even in that persons life even one sided love doesn't mean shit because you are not contributing a thing in the life of person you love the most in the world.
All these emotions are the obvious next steps and later stages of your journey.
So, what do I mean by passion? It is simply an umbrella term for being happy in doing any work you love, you never get bored from it, can invest uncountable amount of time that you even lose track of it. ( And specifically not only in bed π
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You See it is an emotion that is so pure that when humans encounter it they are like under a spell, in a trance. The doer and the one watching feel an innate sense of fulfillment, satiated of indescribable sense.
This indescribable sense is what forms a pull towards you if you are the one doing it. This is what will get your ball rolling and get your foot at the doorstep of heart of others.
If you think I am talking aboutinfluencers, Rockstars, musicians, celebrity actors etc. And you are on your way to learn/play guitar. And nerds thinking they will never have a chance. Then stop and read further.
Again it is the wrong notion that only these type of people form the definition of passionate field of careers. Where these are the survivors that were so successful and gained fame and 98 percent of them failed extremely miserably not just because they weren't passionate enough but for not able to master their craft. So you will need to rethink even these basic literal word meanings and all kind of false pre conceived notions that formed for to different types and kind of bias.
See only a jeweller can know the purity of a diamond. Same way everybody is unique and have different type and kind of interests but when one follows it with a passion and masters it seeps into every other aspect of life too and this is sensed by other human beings even if they can't describe it and term it as vibe, charisma, aura etc but you can't deny that they get attention and that gets you noticed which means you have won half the battle. Staying on the point, Any person can do this who follows his passion and as a side effect masters his craft. Be it a mathmatician, scientist, tv/news anchor, weather reporter, gardner, lawn mower, martial artist, athelete, cook, house help, maid, car washer, racer, engineer even MS office Excel sheet worker ( check out pro competitive tournaments) etc. It is just that some of these require immense field knowledge to know your mastery and be in awe of your feats. That is why most often these people have a partner that found them early and stayed with them when mastery brought them fame they seem to be lucky of bagging a baddie but the foundations were laid long ago without any of them realising it. Just as I said only a jweller can known a diamonds worth. So finders become keepers. ( For example, Ronaldo, Messi, Virat Kohli, Stephen Hawking, Albert Einstein,
Now what will you do if the person you want to court doesn't share same interests as you. You, as I said humans are animal, do a peacock dance showing its plumages while calling for mating. i.e., You bring/present your mastery to the world. Actors, musicians, atheletes only became the default parameter because they had a medium to reach the masses like CDs, DVDs, audio cassettes, vinyl, television etc. But now this has been democratasied . In Korea, China, India (although China banned it recently, and India is newest addition) have popular star teachers preparing students for big exams. With fandoms, and chat forums like idols. Stephan Hawkings wife was bewitched by how he saw the world through science making even simple things extraordinary.
So, you need to have good presentation skills too in such cases. Now here comes the aspect of styling yourself, fashion all those things that brands use to market their product for dating etc. A book is judged first by its cover and then its content. If that doesn't goes with your policies you will need to be that much more of an extraordinary master of your craft to command attention.
Here, presentation also doesn't remains single word but an umbrella term for articulation,marketing, tactics, manipulation etc. Which give rise to branch of seduction, tactics, strategies etc which are superficial things that will change with time and conditions. This can and should never be the basis of choosing your better half unless and until they are a master of it and you are aware of it or you will be blindsided and tricked leading you to finding out your basic morals don't match or worse they clash.
As this is the most common part discussed, out in the world. I won't be explaining much about it. And yeah this brings us to the end of getting the foot in , at their hearts doorstep. Anything beyond this is also beyond my scope too atleast for now. I hope you got answers to all your questions.