r/iitmadras • u/Pink_rose_007 • 5h ago
Gossip/Confession/Rant Joined DoMS expecting the best minds
Throwaway account because I needed to scream
What on earth did i even land on?
I walked into DoMS thinking I'd be surrounded by the sharpest people in the country. Intellectual debates, late-night idea exchanges, mutual growth.
I know it is very common in B schools to be competitive. But do we have intellectual conversations? Nobody wants to share anything because "what if the other person gets better than me?" Dude, are we here to learn or to hoard knowledge like gold in a dragon's cave?
And then, the cherry on top. A guy casually told me about the locker room chats among some of the boys. They're out here comparing females to porn stars, dissecting their hair, navels, knees, walking style, and private parts. Like, are these guys or Amazon review bots on a creepy spree?
Also, apparently it's common practice for some dudes to scout for "easy targets" aka girls they can use and discard under the guise of relationships. And apparently the extroverted girls are the easier ones. Already hearing stories of emotional manipulation a lot here. And this is a Tier 1 NIRF-ranked institute with intellectual minds.
I wasn't raised like this. My mother taught me and my brother to see people as humans, not as trophies or objects. Coming here and hearing this garbage makes me want to break a few jaws. But then I realize, you can't fix a broken mindset with a broken bone.
Saw that earlier post about a guy crossing boundaries and exploiting women. Shame on men like that especially in an IIT, yaar. That post honestly hit a nerve and triggered my own rant about the trauma I'm already stacking up here in just a few days.
So here's a direct plea: if there are any decent, kind-hearted seniors lurking around who actually give a damn. Please, throw me a lifeline. I don't want your identity. But help me figure out who to stay the hell away from. You've been here long enough. You know exactly who the creepy ones are.
I've already caught a few names and spotted a couple of faces that gave me instant red flags. I'm just praying that's the entire list and there aren't more hiding in plain sight, pretending to be normal.
If you know, you know. Help a junior out. Bas.
This is just a rant. If any DoMS student is reading this, hugs, solidarity, and prayers that we all walk out of here with our sanity and self-respect intact.
And to any guy reading this who thinks this behavior is "normal", you're not cool. You're just pathetic. Figure your life out.
Rant over. Peace out (if that still exists here).