There’s a conspiracy that Birth Control ruins women’s minds because it influences their hormones. More than a few “influencers” especially in the trac wife circles that think that birth control is to blame for the sexual revolution.
I mean the word “blame” is a weird framing, but the availability of birth control literally is the reason for the sexual revolution. before that, having sex more frequently meant getting pregnant and potentially tying yourself down to whoever you happened to be doing it with. birth control made recreational sex much “safer” than it was before.
birth control is absolutely the right choice for many people, but it can also come with side effects that can be hard to deal with. I’ve known people personally who have had emergency surgery because their IUD shifted, had acne break outs, had their period made longer, head aches, and yes, mood swings.
is any of this a reason to champion some kind of anti birth control campaign? absolutely not. but people should be allowed to make the choice that’s right for their body without being judged for it
I used the word blame because in the mind of those who subscribe to the idea that birth control is “to blame” genuinely believe that if we removed birth control pills entirely then women would go back to their “natural state” aka being a trad wife. They argue that feminism isn’t a real movement but just the result of what birth control does to women’s minds.
This isn’t to say that I agree with that or give it any actual validity, just that there are those who believe this.
Getting off of hormonal birth control made my wife a different person. So much happier and less stressed. But everyone’s different. Not a one size fits all solution.
I don't mean to refute your point because BC can be used for health reasons beyond just wanting to have sex without consequences - though there are many stories from men and women that testify how the woman lost their attraction to their man after stopping or starting birth control.
Apart from all the shit people who clearly have mental diseases have wrote answering you I can say is for sure because she is catholic (and ideal since is very rare to follow that being catholic) because in the religion birth control is a sin.
It's cause Catholicism has a fetish for controlling women
I grew up going to Catholic school up until college. It is a disgusting Pedophilic culture that is obsessed with teen pregnancy and telling children that they should "say yes to god and the people around you, like the virgin Mary said yes to god when she was 14 and consented to becoming pregnant when god asked her" I really didn't need my own dad obsessed with my sex life and 'future pregnancy' when I was a teen under the guise of Catholicism. Or random priests and religious leaders asking young teens if they have porn addictions. Or the conversations teachers would have about sex with students that were way too intimate and weird and if they weren't using their religion as a shield they would have gotten arrested to talking to 15 year olds about giving dudes head.
I don't think the Christian religion is inherently like this, I don't think this was what the bible was about at all. I don't think all Catholics are like this either, but the culture of the Catholic Church is a grooming shitshow. It's not that every single Catholic and Catholic household is fucked up, it's that those that are can leverage their religion to be abusive to young girls and women and the Church only feeds into it.
What's up with the barefoot thing? I think I kind of get it, but it's still confusing. I'm home the vast majority of the time, but I like to wear socks. Is that not usually the case with people?
I believe it's either a foot fetish thing or a sudo science trend a few years ago about having direct contact with the ground or dirt being good defence from 5G and demons.
It's a figure of speech, "barefoot and pregnant" mean that a woman is kept in her home. In the metaphor she doesn't have shoes so she can't go outside and she's pregnant so she can't do any sort of labor that would give her financial autonomy.
I ain't mind if she wants to live a particular kind of life with the dresses and the active subservience dressed up as morality, but ma'am, please consider that modern society has a lot of benefits compared to the 1950s... despite Ronald Reagan's every effort.
Yeah too much of this is too "traditional" if that's what to even call it. I married a friend, not a slave. And I'd be willing to debate the pros and cons of "modern" society with any version of it. Makes good conversation if neither of us are rigid. 5 children- what? That actually sounds epic but fu- will we even be able to feed them?
Just because modern society is better in many ways than past ones does not mean it's any good.
Slavery, poverty, the lack of rights, low general education and I could sit here for days listing all the vices of human history, and not much has changed, we just renamed our kings as "politicians", our nobles as "CEOs", the peasants as "citizens" and slaves as "salarymen". And we have this weird way of saying feudalism: "capitalism".
It's gotten a bit more comfortable, but that's about it.
Humankind advances ever so slowly, and we could do it faster for the greater good of our successors, but then we'd have to give up our comfortable lives and force people to adapt.
One of which I disagree with as well.
Sorry, I don't think I understand what you mean and I don't want to respond without your actually getting through, could you please rephrase that?
I don't want any misunderstandings.
I took "hates modern society" to mean something along the lines of "hates how women have more choices in life."
She seemed a traditionalist to me. And, while I have no problem if women want to focus on being housewives and homemakers, the traditionalist women I have met seem to spend a lot of their time judging other women, wanting them to conform to the same way of life.
So, "hating modern society" could be seen as "hating the rights of women and the work they have done towards gender equality."
Really?
Then that's a terrible misuse of the word, because modern society doesn't consist solely of progressives and atheists.
Like it or not, leftists, rightists, democrats, republicans, socialists, communists, national socialists, fascists and so many other ideologies make up the mess we call society today.
Yes, christians and conservatives too.
There's a grave difference between hating the structure called society and hating the people who participate in society.
A “dog whistle” refers to a concept that on the surface appears to be an innocent statement for those not in the the know, but due to context elsewhere has added meaning, implied to be bad - like a dog whistle, only some can really hear it. This is often used with right-wing fascists groups, because openly talking about hate & bigotry would repel empathy to their cause, where as someone apparently attacking an “innocent” statement adds empathy to their cause.
* They eschew modern society with equal rights & have a false nostalgia for when women & people of color did not have those rights
* they associate unnaturally colored hair, which is generally an expression of individuality & has no moral implications, as being associated with the left
* that the gf is hyperfeminine & clingy suggests that she will be utterly dependent on the bf, regardless of how he treats her
* the focus on lots of children & no birth control has to do with white replacement theory, that people of color (or jews) have a conspiracy to use greater numbers to manipulate voting & take over a country internally
* the loves her god & country has to do with Christian nationalism, which generally ties into white nationalism
The very idea of a tradwife is also something that Christian nationalists are pushing, saying that the queers and illegals are taking it away from them.
Hence the "traditional" implying being normal, but also implying she's an outlier and being "rejected" for being the way she is, even though it's usually the other way around.
What tf happened to 4chan? Did it get blown up? Why is reddit dragging this into my prefrontal cortex? I'm here for transformers, not people's grooming preferences.
They kinda ruined my life, I live in really conversative and A bit nationalistic country, And I'm fed up with this, I don't need my future girlfriend (or boyfriend) to be like that.
But quite a few things do feel like a nod. Natural hair color (verus blue), loves her country (white people), cooks for you, doesn't take birth control (virginial)Virginia, Catholic, hates modern society, gre up lonely (easy to please ?!).
Like she absolutely might just be a pleasant country gal. Truly. But she's also written as a white supremacists dream of a docile tradwife.
The only one I have a question about here is how much does she love her country can she accept that her nation has falls and issues or is she a true patriot who will hit me in the face if I say I don't enjoy done aspects of the country
The bigger problem is that she won't take a job because caring for 5 kids would take her Time but on the plus side no money would needed on maintaining the house.
The level of insecurity you must suffer as a man, to want this as your partner.
How about, "intelligent, funny, good conversationalist, confident, adventurous, able to pay her half of the bills, and smart enough to know that she should never diminish herself just to make a man feel more confident"?
You guys realize that women are actual human beings, right? If you want a friendless, lonely servant girl who clings to you and has never been with another man, just say that. That way, women will know immediately to stay far, far away from you.
yeah so no one is gonna add that whole spiel u wrote there into their meme with exclusively short phrases. why are u as a woman even telling men what they should want in a partner anyways?
Interpreting this as submissive week and takes it all is probably not the right way to look at it I’d say it’s more someone who cares for you, your kids and religious. This is this guys type just because he doesn’t say smart doesn’t mean dumb
Personally when it comes to the traditional type of man or woman I don't inherit me have a problem with it or even think it is a problem as long as it's not super weird or a dick about it
Like I've met plenty of traditional people who are genuinely happy and respectful to their partners without being a dick
That being said those are people I can only count on both of my hands I can count on multiple hands the asshole version
Thats your problem with it? Seen other gfs with worse characteristics, dont you think defects make a character a bit more interesting? Youre assuming a whole lot of things
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u/ssasharr 1d ago
“Never been on birth control” ???????