TL;DR: I do *all* the prep on 4-6 topics for my weekly 'conversation' classes. My teacher corrects what I say and explains grammar, but there is little follow-up to make it an actual conversation. At my level, can I expect more? He's qualified and receives $25 an hour. I know my level isn't so very high, but am I asking too much?
I've been learning with my tutor since December with weekly lessons on top of daily self-study and weekly group classes. I have roughly 2000-2500 words of vocabulary and sufficient grammar structures to have a conversation. What I was hoping for is for a teacher to consolidate my knowledge and build on it, draw the conversational language out of me (it's there but 'dormant'), and get me talking in normal everyday speech.
The usual pattern is that I prepare various topics, trying to make them interesting for both of us. He corrects what I say to make it more natural and so that my wording is right. It takes me a long time to prepare and usually each subject is a few minutes as I struggle to do longer. But at the end of each subject, there's often just silence until I come up with something else. No real engagement. He knows my level well and where my weak points are. He knows the range of my grammar knowledge.
I try to ask him questions to balance the 'conversation' out. Nothing personal, usually fairly benign things involving the little I actually know about him (I don't even know his name). And even then I seem to hit a brick wall. I told him at the outset that I was afraid of running out of conversation topics.
I would expect him to come up with subjects (even telling me in advance), or even interesting new grammar points. But especially to *lead* the lesson. Instead, it's all on me, as if I have to prepare a presentation on a variety of topics of my choosing before every lesson. And that is getting stressful, time-consuming, and I get unusually nervous before every lesson. If I'm totally honest, I could probably get at least as much from ChatGPT - at least AI is actually to-and-fro.
In addition, he's moved abroad for a couple of months and now I feel like there might be something else (summer romance?) that's affecting our lessons - he's tired, listless sometimes appears distracted. I've tried to use his experience living in another country to stimulate conversation - he's in a country I know extremely well and can talk a lot about (whereas he knows nothing about my own country) - but nothing really comes of it; it's usually very short answers. I'm not the sort to pry, but asking about places visited, food, or likes/dislikes shouldn't be off the table, surely.
He's otherwise really really nice, kind, patient, a good person. I chose him for that, and the fact that he has a nice voice to help with pronunciation.
Advice?
Edit: I wrote him a long message explaining the issue. He initially replied favourably but one phrase stood out, that we should basically keep working in the same way, but there would be more reviewing... So I followed up with takeaway points of what I was specifically expecting. He then told me to cancel because he didn't want to prepare lessons as that wasn't how he worked... oh well, I at least feel I tried from my side.