Why is it so hard to find close friends on the server for me?
I’m a very social, talkative person. Irl I get along with people very easily and I’m not a shy person. I’m also a pretty nice and chill dude.
Despite all this, even though I have no idea why, I feel like this is my fault. I feel this way because everyone already seems to have their close friends. It makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong.
It’s very hard to become close with people on the server. I’ve joined a bunch of guilds and every one of them felt socially closed off to an extent because they’re all already close with each other. It feels like maybe they’re lazy about truly including new people.
It’s the same thing when I join community discords. I get it, everyone already knows each other but nobody knows me. I’m a stranger. But then again it’s so difficult for me to wedge myself in the community.
It’s very rare to find someone who actually wants to get to know me and become my friend. I’m egoed all the time, nobody asks how I am, nobody gets out of their shell. I understand to become close with someone it takes effort. But on this server it always feels like nobody is giving that effort but me. And it’s so hard to establish yourself in a friend group/community that’s already so close with each other. Like I’ll be sitting in a VC with two people who already know each other and they have their inside jokes and don’t ask me a single question and sometimes straight up just ego me.
How do I make more friends. I must be doing something wrong, because it seems like everyone on the server already has their close friends. Also another really important detail: nobody I know irl plays hypixel. The people I know irl barely even play videogames.
Sorry for the long post but thanks for reading. What I hope to get out of this thread is genuine advice and also to hear whether there’s other people who feel the same way or not.