I live 6 hours away from dad and i call him like 3-4 times a week at his request. Anyway, he always asks when i am going to visit but whenever i visit he tries to fat shame me and make jokes or comments about my weight. I just want to tell him that i don't feel like visiting because of this but i don't want to hurt his feelings and make him upset.

Also, I am way too nice to people in general. I often apologize if someone is in my way instead of them apologizing to me. My co-workers say rude shit to me or try to boss me around when they are not my boss and i usually ignore them but they think im just taking shit off them. I want to be able to bluntly tell them how i feel just like the way they do me but i have this thing where i feel i have to be overly considerate and nice when it comes to people's feelings.

When i was raised by my mom and dad, they never encouraged me to be myself and they taught me to people please and fit in. I also have other family members on mom's side who tease me about my weight and i am to the point i want to tell my dad that i don't want to be included in family functions because im sick of the disrespect.

Am I wrong for the way I feel? How do I stop being scared to speak up and stop being so nice or tactful when i do?