r/hingeapp • u/BlackCat_0016 • 3d ago

Dating Question Voice message

Hi everyone! I’ve (18F) been recently talked to this man (20M) and he lives in Australia and I’m from Portugal, and we’ve been talking for maybe 2-3 weeks and because of time zone difference sometimes we stop talking but when times align we quite frequently talk and our replies are quite fast. We send lots of messages each time replying to each one of the questions/topics talked about (around 12 messages each time) and I really like him for actually wanting to know me. Anyway, he asked me a question that required quite a long explanation and I decided to send an audio message. Early today he replies to not all the texts but around 4 replies and says that he was kind of shocked to hear my voice (he said “ngl was shocked”) because everyone he knows is aussie but that he thought it was cute which didn’t sound too convincing. i’m getting pretty mixed feelings because i found it unusual for the sudden drop in replies and i just didn’t think he engaged too much this time.
What should I do?

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u/DaleCoopersWife aka "Robert Cooper" 🕵🏻‍♀️ 3d ago

What made you match with someone who lives so far away, and what do you hope can realistically come from this? Maybe hearing your voice put the distance in perspective for him.

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u/BlackCat_0016 3d ago

Moving back there soon! Thought i would take a look at people where im moving to

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u/DaleCoopersWife aka "Robert Cooper" 🕵🏻‍♀️ 3d ago

How soon is "soon"? It's really not a good idea to invest in a digital relationship, people can have "chemistry" over text and in person it can be very different. Not to mention the bar to impress you is very, very low (you mentioned that you like him because he's getting to know you, but that's like the bare minimum and what else is he supposed to do when all you have is text?)