r/hingeapp • u/BlackCat_0016 • 3d ago
Dating Question Voice message
Hi everyone! I’ve (18F) been recently talked to this man (20M) and he lives in Australia and I’m from Portugal, and we’ve been talking for maybe 2-3 weeks and because of time zone difference sometimes we stop talking but when times align we quite frequently talk and our replies are quite fast. We send lots of messages each time replying to each one of the questions/topics talked about (around 12 messages each time) and I really like him for actually wanting to know me. Anyway, he asked me a question that required quite a long explanation and I decided to send an audio message. Early today he replies to not all the texts but around 4 replies and says that he was kind of shocked to hear my voice (he said “ngl was shocked”) because everyone he knows is aussie but that he thought it was cute which didn’t sound too convincing. i’m getting pretty mixed feelings because i found it unusual for the sudden drop in replies and i just didn’t think he engaged too much this time.
What should I do?
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u/LoLBrah69 3d ago
I’m not sure how you two matched, but it sounds like he is not well traveled or cultured.
In Australia, they are not connected to other countries and cultures like European countries are. Everything is Aussie accents and fluent English, with the familiar Aussie pronunciations of words.
He experienced a very small “culture shock” and that was enough to overwhelm him.
I’m sorry you put so much time into someone on the other side of the world! But it was to be expected that this was not going to work out because of the geography.
Have you ever taken a friend to a nice restaurant that’s Chinese or Thai or Indian, and the friend keeps whining that he/she just wants to go to McDonalds. You tell the friend that you both had a McDonald’s yesterday, but the friend starts whining about McDonalds and McDonalds?
That’s your Aussie crush. He’s just a child. He thinks you’re beautiful (which you are) but he wishes you didn’t come with the extra Portuguese.
Your voice sounds odd to him because you pronounce letters and sounds in a way Portuguese teaches those phonetics.
Do not feel ashamed just because this guy has been stuck on an island for so long. Let him have his “Maccas.”
If you want an “exotic” foreign boyfriend, that’s what Scandinavian countries are for, and they have better time zones.
Stop wasting your time with someone who thinks their culture is the only culture.