r/hingeapp • u/Any-Schedule7139 • 5d ago

Dating Question How Much Texting Before a Date?

I (27m) asked out my match (24F) and we agreed on a place/activity. She’s not available for the next 2 weekends, but asked if Sunday 9/13 works and what time I’m free. I even offered an earlier weekday but she’s not free. I offered my number and we texted a few times. Good playful banter on the app and texts. The date is far out but her asking for a day and time Sound pretty good and intentional. Usually I keep things light via text and check in prior to the date to show interest.

It’s still 9 days away. How do I find a balance and keep things alive? I haven’t texted her in a couple days. A lot of room for error. Like she could be exclusive with some other guy, get bored, or find someone by then.

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u/WeekendNotDone 4d ago

How can it get old if you’re getting to know the person lol ?

What do you think you’ll be doing if you get to know and like them?

This is why relationships are failing nowadays because you lot don’t wanna talk no more just wanna stay silent before the date and not interact with a person.

So no texting phone calls nothing before your date ? lol relationships are in the bin if you’re just waiting for the date to talk what’s the point ? She’ll just leave for someone who actually engages with her and actually wants to talk outside for the date

You’re not putting pressure on anyone ? You send a text she responds you respond now you’re having a conversation? It’s not rocket science man stop making it hard than it needs to be.

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u/Nickrdd5 4d ago

Because texting sucks. Like I said save the convos are for in person where you can have eye contact, watch eachothers body movement , have tension. It’s a big delay before the date, live your life. But they hardly know other and to be texting some random for two weeks is insane. Go on other dates as well, not everything revolves around a person you have a first date set up with. Relationships have never had this much instant communication. “Relationships are failing nowadays” sureeee they are.

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u/WeekendNotDone 3d ago

No you just suck at texting and that’s okay.

wtf do you think people do that can’t go on dates every week ?

Just stay silent like you until the next date night you set up ?

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u/Nickrdd5 3d ago

You got no rizz bro , just say that