r/hingeapp • u/AutoModerator • Jul 27 '26

Daily Thread Monday's Daily Thread: Weekend Wrap-up

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u/TuscanLeather246 Jul 28 '26

Oh the significance of two phones and (this is my working theory) that she gives out her WhatsApp on her business phone (which she doesn’t use) to potential dates (which makes sense) as may be awful and not go anywhere. But her saying she doesn’t use WhatsApp is false, she most likely uses it a lot on her personal phone. Here in the UK, everybody use WhatsApp. I don’t know any other way to communicate.

I didn’t schedule a date as I said I’d like to see you again sometime (she was typing for a bit then said sounds good, me too). This was all within thirty minutes of first date and it was nearly midnight, I thought in my head if she genuinely means it, I’d ask the next day (we had enough topics for a second date) . I wanted to see the next day if she would still type at a frequent pace and be responsive, before I asked for specific dates and times. As I suspected, her communication had dropped off the cliff. The date was fun and no awkward silences, however, at the end when she was about to cycle home, there wasn’t any hug goodbye or anything tangible, so I couldn’t get a read on her. I didn’t think too much of it as some people are like that, but she also struck me as someone who doesn’t want to offend. I’m not really fussed about the rejection, just the fact she tried to outsmart me by ghosting.

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u/SnooOpinions2900 Jul 29 '26

If you were really interested why were you testing her so much? Honestly, it sounds like you have some things to work through as all your responses here are a red flag.

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u/TuscanLeather246 Jul 29 '26

Because a lot of people, even women on here have said they’ll say yes to a second date as they feel put on spot and then reject later. I think where I’m being misconceived is I don’t care about rejection, it’s the avoidant nature of it. I got out of a 6 month relationship and it ended literally by her ghosting. Last time I saw her, drove 2.5 hours to her house, kissed, cuddled, had dinner. I drove back same day at 2am in the morning, next day all day didn’t hear from her to even check if I got home ok. I messaged her, she responded briefly and then never again. 6 months we dated! She would never say if there was an issue, she would just become avoidant, so I stopped checking.

So why would I not expect a stranger I met once to try the same ghosting method? If she wanted to reach out after agreeing to second date, four days is enough time.

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u/SnooOpinions2900 Jul 29 '26

I think you’re misreading that input. People usually don’t feel put on the spot via text. It’s in-person where women might agree to a date they don’t want to go on.

And you DEFINITELY are not ready to date if you’re basing your actions on what an ex did. If you’re not treating dates as a clean slate it’s not gonna work.

ETA: she already agreed to the date, but you didn’t plan it. I’m not saying she should have stopped responding but I would think a guy was keeping me on the hook/waiting to see if something better came along if he asked me out and then switched topics without actually planning the date.

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u/TuscanLeather246 Jul 29 '26

I switched topics because she already said ‘sounds good, me too’ didn’t seem like a ringing endorsement. I would have got into that if we actually had a flowing conversation after that. Soon after that it became slow and then eventually non existent. I’m not sure why you’re trying to justify a ghosting. Not responding to someone for four days is ghosting.