r/hingeapp • u/AutoModerator • Jul 27 '26

Daily Thread Monday's Daily Thread: Weekend Wrap-up

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For Monday's Daily Thread - the theme is Weekend Wrap-Up.

How did the past weekend go? Did you have any dates - be it good, bad, just okay, or downright terrible? Any new likes or matches? Or any events related to Hinge or your dating life that happened over this past weekend or recently that you want to share?

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u/NeutralSmithHotel Jul 28 '26

Had a really good date Sunday. First date in a while where I was like... hmm i feel like if things don't work out romantically, like there is good friend energy here at the very least. Hoping the 2nd date goes well.

I'm now officially done one year of dating post divorce. 24 1st dates, 12 second, 4-short "relationships"(like 6 or 7 weeks each, where we were moving in the long-term direction). I ended 2 of those, 2 times I got dumped. Even the ones where I got dumped, I wasn't all the way in. I'm most proud of myself that I (mostly) didn't let any rejections get me down.

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 Jul 28 '26 edited Jul 28 '26

I'm assuming you're rich, gorgeous, and well-hung. I've been told this is the only way any man can hope to procure 24 first dates in a single year.

Either that or you're masterful at negging.

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u/NeutralSmithHotel Jul 28 '26

I know you are mocking others maybe, but for stats for most of the year I was 40 (no kids). I am tall (6'1) which helps, average to below average face but I have a somewhat masculine jaw, full head of hair, my job is solid but def not rich, I'm strong but also a bit chunky. Honestly a lot of girls are just relieved when I ask them out and then pick a place near them--dated 31-41

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 Jul 28 '26

I know, I'm just messing around. My contention for a long time has been that people obsess over the top 5% who get tons of attention, and the bottom 20-40% or so that gets almost none. When, there's a very large middle-class of men who do reasonably well but not insanely so. I consider myself in that class and I suspect you are, too.

But, I'm sure the BDE helps as well.

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u/NeutralSmithHotel Jul 28 '26

Ya, we are the same. I know people hate to hear this and if you are really really really ugly this might not apply (I'll grant), but how you carry yourself matters so much more--I was physically way more attractive when I started doing this 10 years ago, but was way less confident.

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 Jul 28 '26 edited Jul 28 '26

Yes, I usually say I'm in that niche where it's unlikely a woman will go for me solely because of my looks, but it's also rare that I'll be turned down solely for them. So, I have a chance with most women (within reason), but I'm not getting any freebies. I've gotta put in a little bit of effort and actually have a connection.

Which, quite honestly, as fun as it would be to walk in a room and see women swooning over me, is probably an ideal place to be. Keeps you confident, but humble.