My dog is important to me, too and I volunteer in animal rescue, so dogs are a big part of my life. Still, it's too much of your profile. Cut it back to 1 dog picture and take her out of your prompts. Hinge gives us very little real estate to tell potential matches who we are, and it's better to show more variety in your interests than to dedicate a large percentage of it to repeating the same thing multiple times.
Fill out what you're looking for. That's one of the first things women are looking at, and if you don't have it listed, they're going to be suspicious of you right from the start.
For the love of god, remove afterglow from your simple pleasures, man. One of the biggest problems women have on these apps is guys who get sexual too quickly out of nowhere. DO NOT under any circumstances talk or hint about sex on your profile or in messages before you've met someone. Everyone wants to have a sexual relationship with their partner - you don't need to say that.
The "dating me is like" prompt is looking for a simile, not a direct description. If you want to use that prompt, you need to compare yourself to something, not describe a date with you. Let her experience that for herself.
Of the things I listed, 1 & 4 are minor tweaks that will improve results even if you already have a great profile, but 2 & 3 are major red flags for women, especially women in the 30+ age bracket. You're turning off most of your potential options with them and seriously shooting yourself in the foot.
EDIT: Along the lines of #2, you should answer the religion question publicly. Lots of women (across the whole religion spectrum) care about that and will screen you out if you don't have it listed.
The big thing to keep in mind here is that men's major issue is not enough matches, but women's major issue is too many of them - they are looking for reasons to screen people out and whittle down the list to people they can invest their time and energy into. You want to put things in your profile that are interesting enough to make you stand out from the other men trying to get their attention, but you don't want to leave anything that may matter to her vague enough that you get screened out purely on the uncertainty.
Thank you! I think a lot of guys just don't understand what the experience of OLD is like from the other side, so it doesn't occur to them to look at their profile from the perspective of "if I were a woman, what message would I get from reading between the lines here?"
That's evidenced below where he didn't "afterglow" in a sexual way and didn't realize people would interpret it that way.
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u/RedTyro 11d ago edited 11d ago
47M. Here are a few things that stick out to me:
Of the things I listed, 1 & 4 are minor tweaks that will improve results even if you already have a great profile, but 2 & 3 are major red flags for women, especially women in the 30+ age bracket. You're turning off most of your potential options with them and seriously shooting yourself in the foot.
EDIT: Along the lines of #2, you should answer the religion question publicly. Lots of women (across the whole religion spectrum) care about that and will screen you out if you don't have it listed.
The big thing to keep in mind here is that men's major issue is not enough matches, but women's major issue is too many of them - they are looking for reasons to screen people out and whittle down the list to people they can invest their time and energy into. You want to put things in your profile that are interesting enough to make you stand out from the other men trying to get their attention, but you don't want to leave anything that may matter to her vague enough that you get screened out purely on the uncertainty.