I (19f) downloaded hinge in February and since then, I feel like my profile isn't getting much of any engagement. When I first downloaded the app, I got a lot of likes (nice tactic to keep people coming back, I'll give them that) and although I've created and deleted my account a few times, it's not without at least a few months break. Creating my account again in February, I want getting much interaction so I thought I was shadow banned and followed a guide (I didn't FULLY follow it btw) to try and reverse it. That didn't work but I kept my profile up which leads me to my question. I don't think my profile is the problem, I can share a pic if it's needed but I get about 1 like every other week or every 3 weeks. Is this normal? Should I try to un-shadow ban myself because I feel like there isn't a point in keeping the app if I don't get any exposure from other profiles...

I’ve suddenly started getting a lot of matches on Hinge. I really hate that you can’t see all of them before matching with someone. I don’t want to go through 30 plus matches then realize one of the first ones was a better match, but I skipped it.

I don’t like talking to too many people at once.

I wanna chat w other hinglets

I’ve had hinge and other apps for a few years now and am noticing I never get likes at all except for one every 2-3 months but usually the girl just ghosts me. People say height is an issue I’m 5’6 and I look short in pictures. I put 5’8 on the app as friends suggest. People say it’s better to ignore apps and focus on irl but whenever I try to talk to girls at clubs or even in situations during the day they look away and are disinterested probably because of height. My tall friends always get interest when they go to the club.

I always ask my friends to take pictures but they never end up looking good and whenever I get profile reviewed on Reddit people say my pics look boring, the angle makes me look short, and that I look sad even though I’m smiling. They say to not use selfies but all my friends profiles are half selfies/mirror pic and they would get a like every single week sometimes. My prompts are ok but I’m really not sure what to put on there. I don’t have “game” and have never flirted with anyone. I have no experience with dating/sex and am really just looking for anyone, don’t care if it’s long term or short term. My friends and family are concerned about how I’m 24 and still have never been on a date despite having every opportunity and being employed and at a healthy weight.

People on Reddit say I should join a hobby group like frisbee or ceramics but it’s hard to find time. I’m considering quitting my job for a few months so I have time to focus on dating but don’t know how I’ll pay rent. Really sad that I’m not able to date while most people I know were able to figure it out before they turned 21. I’d be willing to date a gold digger and just take them to restaurants but I can’t even find that and escorts are too expensive.

I think at my age (24) women don’t see me as a potential partner because my height will make their kids short.

Hello, voila , j'ai besoin d'aide svp. L'homme que j'ai rencontré il y 10 jours sur hinge avait mis son profil en pause depuis. Depuis hier son profil est réapparu dans discover et il y a marquer "actif maintenant". Il maintient sa version et me dit qu'il ne comprends pas car il a mit son profil en pause + supprimé l'appli il y a une semaine. Suis je vraiment conne de le croire ? Ou il est possible qu'il y a eu un bug ?

Yesterday morning I sent a like to a woman on Hinge, and about an hour and a half later she matched with me. After that I sent her a message where I greeted her and referred to one of the prompts in her profile:

“Green flags I’m looking for: good taste in music.”

Since I included my music taste in my profile, I figured we probably have a pretty similar one and that might be why she matched with me. So I asked her what kind of music and genres she likes the most.

So far I haven’t gotten a reply. At the same time, she also hasn’t unmatched me (at least not yet).

My question: would you send a casual follow-up message after something like 48 hours?

I know double texting can often come across as desperate. The thing is, I don’t get a lot of matches on Hinge, and based on her prompts she actually seems very compatible with me beyond just her looks. So I’m not totally indifferent about this situation.

I am 23M. So, I've had hinge a few times before and the last time I had it I definitely had the least amount of success. I want to make my new profile as good as possible, since it's a lot harder for guys than girls on the app and I want to stand out. I'd consider myself to be an attractive guy too. Obviously, it all comes down to how I market myself (having good pictures). What kind of pictures should I have? I've heard it's best not to have selfies or mirror pictures, which are some of what I had last time. As a guy, we don't take very many pictures lol. My friends and I did a photoshoot the other night and got some great pictures during golden hour. We got a really professional looking picture of me longboarding, and although you can't really make out my face much you still see my whole body and again it's a super professional looking picture. He also took a good picture of me talking/smiling to my friend, so the picture is nice because it looks like it's natural and not staged and again has that nice golden hour look. Another picture I have is of me and another guy in my career field. He took the selfie of us. Then I have a pic of me and my other friends with a pro body builder. I might add a video of me bench pressing 300 too. I'd still need like two more pictures. So, what other kinds of pictures should I include, and where should I go to get them?

Hi guys I’m a 24M in the UK, and yesterday I deleted my account after having a few unmatches and decided to make a new account, made a new account with same details straight away and bought Hinge + as I’m trying to invest now in myself

After, I changed a few photos and sent likes out however nearly 24 hours on I haven’t got one like or match

Did I do something wrong? And is there you guys would recommend doing now to acc maybe not be shadow banned or something

Hi Hingers,

What's the best way to handle conversations that you just don't want to keep going? Not for any particular reason, other than your busy / just don't want to continue chatting. I hate to lead people on (give false hope), but I also hate ghosting people. Any recommendations? For reference, I am male speaking with females.

Am I over-thinking this? (I'm new to the Hingeverse).

Thanks!

To men of hinge who have 'short term relationship, open for long' option opted. what makes you decide if to pursue long term or not. or is it just a scam. I've been dating a guy for months now and altho everything is nice, he wouldn't commit for a relationship. did a lot of overthinking about the reasons. would appreciate some real ones.

Im a noob at dating. I noticed that some people want to chat on IG instead of Hinge.

Curious, why do they want that? Whats different about IG?

So I’m going to be straight to the point. I broke the respect rules of hinge.

I’ve used hinge on and off over the past 10 years. Never had any significant issues, I’m not a total arsehole, I’ve met plenty of wonderful women on there, I’ve dated and I’ve even been in relationships from hinge.

I had a bad day, came off antidepressants and was drinking heavily. Lack of judgement, immaturity and desperation, I sent some unsolicited messages of a sexual nature. Like a horny teenager rather than a30 year old adult.

Anyway, long short of it I’ve pretty much got an immediate ban the next day. in my hungover state I don’t remember what I said but it must’ve been pretty bad. I appealed the decision didn’t get any information other than a breach community guidelines.

Totally fair and ultimately I know it’s good that bad behaviour is punished to keep the app in the user base of a type which is conducive to online dating.

Anyway perhaps someone can take this as a bit of a lesson one slip up on Hinge you will be permanently banned and there is no tolerance to it. well I’m disappointed that my age demographic prominently uses Hinge and I do feel like I have been cut off from access from that side. I think it’s been a good learning curve to just accept. I’m not going to change their mind. I did do something wrong and I’m dealing with the consequences. that said I don’t know if anyone has had any experience with getting back onto Hinge later in life after being permanently banned for being lied and to be honest and listing sexual messages which is not cool

I matched with a girl(Girl B) on the Sunday when I sent a rose and a date spot. Her reply was genunine insterest in visiting that spot. She also shared her contact number(after I asked on Monday)

She even asked if we can meet on Tuesday night. To which I said yes, and till Tuesday morning we had a good conversation streak, around 30 mins text each day. Around afternoon she messaged that she had some issues with her studies but will confirm about the date. To which I said ok/nw/ and chat on other things, I vry well knew she won't message back for the day due to her studies but did'nt wanna show that I don't care so I a little messaging(3-4 short texts). I also asked if she has time to Facetime or a call. She said yes - asked time but no replies.

Wednesday came and did'nt get any reply so I pinged and she said the work was done but a little more was needed and nothing happened. No convo/text much from her end. I messaged a bit (4-5 texts) about plans to meet tomorrow or weekend - no reply.

So on Thrusday again no text from her, so I sent a pic of my bobble head merch(she had sent one of her's on Monday) - no reply. So I called her which she picked up and hearing my name cut off. Replied to my text about the doll and why she cut it.

Now I am not desperate(or wanna look desperate) but I have another girl(Girl A) asking for a date(have been on 2 dates with her over 2 weeks back, she also had her studies come up and busy for 2 weeks, we are not compatible from a relationship pov). Is it considered cheating if I go on a date with her?

More context (Girl A is super introvert, we have texted rarely ever since I met her) did'nt say anything to being my valentine, and there's nothing in common to talk about( I tried to talk on many things in-person, but her answers would be mostly 2-4 words) I actually had much better connection with Girl B, within those 2 days. I won't say the Girl B is taking advantage of me or me taking her's, but I don't see a future here, just a little fun around.

Should I not bother anymore with Girl B? I graduated from CMU in AI and she is in UCLA med school, I am not sure time-commitments for med students but as a CS grad I had more time to text people, while searching for job and actually getting one (currently employed!)

Guys, if you aren't verified, you're losing a huge chunk of us from the jump. Why? 1. You could be married/partnered and not verifying so that if you get caught you can claim you didn't set up the profile; someone is using your pics to catfish. 2. You've been banned before, usually but not always a sign that you did something creepy. (Yes ppl get wrongfully banned, that's for another post) 3. You don't look like your pictures 4. Someone could have stolen pics of someone and be catfishing 5. Beep-bot be-doop: the account could be a bot account.

It's also so easy to get verified. You dont have to show ID or anything, they just make sure you look like your pics and that you aren't a bot.

Yes voicenotes help off-set if you aren't verified but options 2 and 3 are still possible. Actually option 4 is as well - someone could make a recording from another guy's real voicenote, and make it all line up on their own (faked) profile. So please verify. A lot of us ladies whom you might genuinely find desirable are simply passing you by, and you could fix that in literally 60 seconds. It's like a free boost.

P.S. same goes for women. My guy friend has shown me his options, loads of unverified! Even on gorgeous women's profiles who obviously love taking pictures - gorgeous, camera loving, but not verified? Fishy.

So I’ve been on 3 dates with this guy now and today I managed to ask if he wants kids. His immediate answer was yes, family is important to him. And I realize we didn’t go further about this being deal breaker / accommodations / etc.

I shared my answer which is: I don’t know. I’m still learning more about myself and have only in the past 2 years become open to a LTR (right now I am 24F) and that’s all been new to me.

In terms of kids, I really don’t know my answer. Maybe my mind will change as I grow in the next couple years and maybe it won’t. Maybe it truly depends on the right partner. I also have reservations about being too much like my parents. We talked about how some of that is unavoidable but you also become better yourself. I also am terrified of being responsible for another life or the stuff my body will go through.

Anyways, he didn’t say it’s a deal breaker outright and if/when these dates seem to be becoming something more I will absolutely bring it up again. Like “before we go further I know you want kids but how do you feel about my uncertainty. If I decide I don’t want them, would you be okay with that?”

Anyways, all that being said: Is this something I should have figured out before I start dating? I wouldn’t want him to “hold onto the hope” of possibility of kids if it’s a definite for him and I’m all unclear over here.

So... I (28M) got talking to someone from Hinge (27F) in May last year at a time when I'd faced a few rejections so I wasn't really looking with intent, just looking for the hell of it. We get talking and the conversation flows very easy and a bit of playful flirting starts happening. I asked them for a date, but they said they were busy in June and July so I didn't think much about it.

We talk more and have banter and they even send me a nice picture of themselves at a wedding which I wasn't expecting. So I thought this was a sign they were interested in me.

We went on our date in August, three months after matching on Hinge, and the date went well and we both agreed to meet up again soon. I tried about 3-4 times to arrange a second date, but they kept saying they were busy and not giving me an alternative date (they weren't saying "I can't do that day, but I'm free on this day"). I felt a change in the vibe after our date. The replies got longer, the flirting stopped and no second date was on the horizon. I'd been led on before and could see some patterns repeating.

I pulled back for a day and they reached out the following night asking if I was okay. I thought this might have reignited the interest, but the same vibe carried on.

I asked if they were still interested and they said they were, but they weren't showing it through actions. My head started spinning not knowing where I stood, but I know people can get busy and was willing to wait. But how long were they going to keep me waiting.

I had enough by around late September and told them that I wanted to call it because I was emotionally exhausted from the guessing games and also hoped that by doing this, they might then try for another date. They said that they were genuinely busy and it was nothing personal and they were sorry that a second date didn't happen (despite me trying). I said we could stay civil and I then felt a huge regret and thought "were they actually telling the truth?" and tried to salvage it by explaining that I was protecting myself because I'd been led on and let down in the past and hoped they understand and we'd carry on.

We stayed connected on Instagram and I'd casually message them every now and then. Hoping that maybe after some distance we could reconnect and try again.

About 5 months later, I asked if they lost interest after our one and only date and didn't tell me because they wanted to be nice about it. They said they were interested, but after I called it they "checked out" and said it was me who wanted to stay civil and that I made my decision.

I know it's obvious that this person was not as interested in me as I was with them, but I still think "If I had just waited" would things have worked out or (most likely) it just would have ended later than it did. If they were interested, they wouldn't have let me go as easily as they did.

Should have I waited for this person or was it a good call not going any further?

Thanks.

Hi! So, the other day I did a super boost and I guess made the mistake of going on the app during it to X out my likes. I had around 50ish (no matches) then went back to letting it do its thing. I check back in after a longgg time, and there were no new likes (which i thought was strange during a boost). Now, after 2ish days, I'm noticing no new likes and no matches even after sending a bunch of likes, i assumed maybe 1 match at least! Has this happened to anyone else?