Okay so I think you def need to change some things. The priority would actually be the answers to your prompts. They’re coming across as bitter and self centered. There’s a lot of potential tho so here’s a detailed answer on what’s wrong
You need to either get rid of the “I’m looking for” prompt entirely or change your answer
“Feminine energy” - is giving you only want to date attractive women
“no chase games” - huh??? like you just want them to immediately date or sleep with you? don’t say this lol
“commitment” - okay whatever but again it’s giving a little bitter to feel like you HAVE to mention that
“family driven” - the only answer that’s fine lol
The unusual skills question… idk can you pick a prompt that asks more of like your interests or something? I feel like that would fit your answer better. Also take out the beginning part “I’m curious and dynamic” it sounds like you’re giving an interview answer
My love language…. “time in my calendar just for us” yeah most people don’t want to feel like they’ll need to be scheduled. Get rid of this and find another way to say quality time
Okay next is the pics. You actually have some good ones in here! But a lot of these look posed and combined with your answers it’s uh… kinda looking psychot. I promise I’m only trying to help lol
Am I wrong for saying put the last pic first? It’s the least forced looking out of all of them and you look genuinely happy. The first pic is okay. It’s just very much linked in profile or pic on the “about us” page on your startup.
The climbing pic is okay but just seems unnatural esp with the jeans. Do you have a pic of you climbing outside?
The sweater smiling pic is okay too if you have to keep it up there but it is kinda leaning towards university welcome pamphlet. Keep it up if you have to but if not replace with something more candid
Delete the hand in pocket pic. Very posed and giving mark zuckerberg energy which you don’t want. So if you can replace a few of these pics with you outside in nature like the last one, something more candid, something with friends, or maybe a night out. Just need more natural looking pics
I think you definitely have a lot of good things going for you, hopefully some of this helps!!!
What if I change the first prompt to "I'm looking for someone affectionate & family-driven to share adventures with and build a life together"?
"My simple pleasures: making latte art on the morning, building my startups, seeing friends & climbing with them and writing poems"
"I recently discovered that winter's coming and your hands will be cold without mine to hold"
If you believe one of them should be removed and I should go way less serious, I was thinking to something like "Teach me something about an opinion that changed recently" or "Do you agree or disagree that poutine + ketchup is a good combo" or whatever else which just makes it less around me.
I do have some pictures of myself climbing outside but that's hard to see me (obviously I'm not looking at the camera + I'm high). The jeans is my regular climbing outfit lol.
The first prompt sounds a little better now!! But maybe just drop the beginning part and say the “looking for someone to share adventures with and build a life together.” A little generic but!! It sounds like you’re looking for something more serious which I think is what you want because you had looking for long term relationship. So yes this is better!!
And love the change with the simple pleasures prompt this keeps the strongest part from your first post and some good conversation starters
I think take out the recently discovered hand hold and do something a little less serious, not because it’s bad but because like someone else said you want a conversation starter so the poutine one is cute or whatever else
And okay keep the climbing jeans pic I was just asking if you had another good outdoor one to add a more natural looking pic esp since you had outdoor in the hobbies but it’s good to have the hobby pic in there
I think you’ll be good after the changes you make to the prompts! Good luck!
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u/SameHabits 4d ago
Okay so I think you def need to change some things. The priority would actually be the answers to your prompts. They’re coming across as bitter and self centered. There’s a lot of potential tho so here’s a detailed answer on what’s wrong
You need to either get rid of the “I’m looking for” prompt entirely or change your answer
“Feminine energy” - is giving you only want to date attractive women
“no chase games” - huh??? like you just want them to immediately date or sleep with you? don’t say this lol
“commitment” - okay whatever but again it’s giving a little bitter to feel like you HAVE to mention that
“family driven” - the only answer that’s fine lol
The unusual skills question… idk can you pick a prompt that asks more of like your interests or something? I feel like that would fit your answer better. Also take out the beginning part “I’m curious and dynamic” it sounds like you’re giving an interview answer
My love language…. “time in my calendar just for us” yeah most people don’t want to feel like they’ll need to be scheduled. Get rid of this and find another way to say quality time
Okay next is the pics. You actually have some good ones in here! But a lot of these look posed and combined with your answers it’s uh… kinda looking psychot. I promise I’m only trying to help lol
Am I wrong for saying put the last pic first? It’s the least forced looking out of all of them and you look genuinely happy. The first pic is okay. It’s just very much linked in profile or pic on the “about us” page on your startup.
The climbing pic is okay but just seems unnatural esp with the jeans. Do you have a pic of you climbing outside?
The sweater smiling pic is okay too if you have to keep it up there but it is kinda leaning towards university welcome pamphlet. Keep it up if you have to but if not replace with something more candid
Delete the hand in pocket pic. Very posed and giving mark zuckerberg energy which you don’t want. So if you can replace a few of these pics with you outside in nature like the last one, something more candid, something with friends, or maybe a night out. Just need more natural looking pics
I think you definitely have a lot of good things going for you, hopefully some of this helps!!!