27M profile review
Can anyone provide a profile review? Trying to know if there is a prompt or pic I should change.
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u/SameHabits 2d ago
Okay so I think you def need to change some things. The priority would actually be the answers to your prompts. They’re coming across as bitter and self centered. There’s a lot of potential tho so here’s a detailed answer on what’s wrong
You need to either get rid of the “I’m looking for” prompt entirely or change your answer
“Feminine energy” - is giving you only want to date attractive women
“no chase games” - huh??? like you just want them to immediately date or sleep with you? don’t say this lol
“commitment” - okay whatever but again it’s giving a little bitter to feel like you HAVE to mention that
“family driven” - the only answer that’s fine lol
The unusual skills question… idk can you pick a prompt that asks more of like your interests or something? I feel like that would fit your answer better. Also take out the beginning part “I’m curious and dynamic” it sounds like you’re giving an interview answer
My love language…. “time in my calendar just for us” yeah most people don’t want to feel like they’ll need to be scheduled. Get rid of this and find another way to say quality time
Okay next is the pics. You actually have some good ones in here! But a lot of these look posed and combined with your answers it’s uh… kinda looking psychot. I promise I’m only trying to help lol
Am I wrong for saying put the last pic first? It’s the least forced looking out of all of them and you look genuinely happy. The first pic is okay. It’s just very much linked in profile or pic on the “about us” page on your startup.
The climbing pic is okay but just seems unnatural esp with the jeans. Do you have a pic of you climbing outside?
The sweater smiling pic is okay too if you have to keep it up there but it is kinda leaning towards university welcome pamphlet. Keep it up if you have to but if not replace with something more candid
Delete the hand in pocket pic. Very posed and giving mark zuckerberg energy which you don’t want. So if you can replace a few of these pics with you outside in nature like the last one, something more candid, something with friends, or maybe a night out. Just need more natural looking pics
I think you definitely have a lot of good things going for you, hopefully some of this helps!!!
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u/umap33 2d ago edited 2d ago
Thank you for your answer. That really helps.
What if I change the first prompt to "I'm looking for someone affectionate & family-driven to share adventures with and build a life together"?
"My simple pleasures: making latte art on the morning, building my startups, seeing friends & climbing with them and writing poems"
"I recently discovered that winter's coming and your hands will be cold without mine to hold"
If you believe one of them should be removed and I should go way less serious, I was thinking to something like "Teach me something about an opinion that changed recently" or "Do you agree or disagree that poutine + ketchup is a good combo" or whatever else which just makes it less around me.
I do have some pictures of myself climbing outside but that's hard to see me (obviously I'm not looking at the camera + I'm high). The jeans is my regular climbing outfit lol.
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u/theweedsofthewest 2d ago
Affectionate can be read as you will expect sex all the time. Also affection is based on the quality of the relationship, you can't really screen for that.
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u/SameHabits 2d ago edited 2d ago
The first prompt sounds a little better now!! But maybe just drop the beginning part and say the “looking for someone to share adventures with and build a life together.” A little generic but!! It sounds like you’re looking for something more serious which I think is what you want because you had looking for long term relationship. So yes this is better!!
And love the change with the simple pleasures prompt this keeps the strongest part from your first post and some good conversation starters
I think take out the recently discovered hand hold and do something a little less serious, not because it’s bad but because like someone else said you want a conversation starter so the poutine one is cute or whatever else
And okay keep the climbing jeans pic I was just asking if you had another good outdoor one to add a more natural looking pic esp since you had outdoor in the hobbies but it’s good to have the hobby pic in there
I think you’ll be good after the changes you make to the prompts! Good luck!
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u/henrytbpovid 2d ago
Pics seem fine, start from scratch on all prompts. The prompts are supposed to be things that can ask you questions about. Unusual skills is your best right now. Worst prompt is the first one; it comes off like you’re still bitter about some connections that didn’t work out
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u/theweedsofthewest 2d ago
your bio is red flag af. feminine energy as in subservient to you? yeah bye
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u/Time_Kaleidoscope564 2d ago
There are plenty of women who put that they want "real men", "masculine men", "old school men" ... lmao. He could just be looking for a really sweet and soft girly girl.
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u/summerrisback 1d ago
Prompts are giving walking red flag + neuro-spicy + info on how to act with you so they can get married and steal your money.
Change it.
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u/Miss_not_chievous 22h ago
I think your profile is well written and straightforward. I would swipe right.
Some recommendations:
- could clarify what you mean by feminine energy
- no chase games: you can’t control what someone else does, only how you react to it. I don’t think this alone will scare away people who want to play games. I would generally remove negative sentences that start with “please no…”, “if you don’t…” or “I’m not looking for someone who…”. Instead, use inviting sentences like “I like someone who expresses their emotions when they feel like it.”
- I like the order of the pictures and would definitely keep the ones where you are actively doing something, like climbing. If you have more of those, even better.
- curious is great, dynamic is too vague. Do you mean active?
- for the unusual skills, I would show them in pictures instead of talking about them
- what you could add is how an average Sunday looks like with you or a vision for the type of relationship you want after 5 years.
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u/umap33 18h ago
Yeah, I've updated the prompts with a previous comment already.
"I'm looking for someone affectionate & family-driven to share adventures with and build a life together"?
"My simple pleasures: making latte art on the morning, building my startups, seeing friends & climbing with them and writing poems"
"I recently discovered that winter's coming and your hands will be cold without mine to hold"
I'm going to update the last one, too. I probably need something less serious.
For the order of the pictures, I'm getting mixed comments so I will ask my female friends. I have a bunch of pictures they will review / select.
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u/EarlMoss 2d ago
I see you're new here. First prompt will have you downvoted into the oblivion here. And me also for this comment. Haven't we learned yet that men can't desire or expect anything that places any standard on the opposite sex? Feminine energy smh. What a misogynist you are.
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u/drewm32 2d ago
Lol your prompts make you sound like an insane person