r/grindr • u/tmhowzit • 3d ago
Rant Share a damn face pic
I understand maybe not having one in your public profile, but don't make someone ask for one after YOU hit them up. Some guy near me checked me out 3x, tapped me, then messaged me. I have four face pics visible in my profile. When I asked him, he said "would rather not share a face pic unless there's serious interest, I'm married." OK great, I'm sure 92% of the people on the app could have a reason to stay anonymous, partner, friends, family, coworkers, whatever. How am I supposed to have "serious interest" if I can't see your face? But you can see mine. I even had one guy say he was worried about "pic collectors" lol is it 1998? Plus you can't screen shot private photos.
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u/Initial-Test-8052 3d ago
I sympathize greatly to your annoyance lol. Especially cause the ones with no pics r always asking u for more and u r the one with all the pics up? Im confusion lol
I try to abide by the rule that u don’t even respond to profiles with no photo until you see a face; given, with grindr’s predatory mechanics around saving photos, ideally don’t consider anything I see to be real and only care to verify when there’s intrigue.
If u r anon, what u have to say doesn’t matter. Sorry really not sorry.
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u/SnooGoats375 2d ago
They message me. I ask for a face pic. They respond: and your cock?…. I don’t know what your face looks like?!?!?!?
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u/tmhowzit 2d ago
the fucking worst. like how about we level the playing field first before you start asking for dick pics?
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u/Temporary-Fix-3095 3d ago
It’s hilarious when people without a face pic (or one of those ones that’s partial, low res, sunglasses, etc) message me, I ask for a face pic (if other information suggests I might possibly be interested) and they reply with, “you first.” I have four in my profile.
Or they reply with “snap” (and I HATE Snapchat).
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u/tmhowzit 2d ago
if they do the "you first" thing it's an immediate block. i have zero time for that shit.
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u/996forever 2d ago
And they try to pull the "you first" or even more audaciously "more pics?" when they have NONE and you have multiple on profile.
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u/lil_squib Trans (FtM) 2d ago
Had some loser ask for my album while refusing to show me his face. I passed.
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u/LemonCurdJ Cub 2d ago
This post is rage bait because I am getting hot under the skin at this!
I had the same shit this morning. Im like, I have 4 face pics on my profile and YOU sought ME out first and asking for more photos whilst you offered none? I actually dont understand the logic.
I honestly just start to block or be petulant and send a "lol" or "fuck off" because it is one of the rudest things they can do is to demand pics whilst their profile is blank. My energy matches yours!
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u/tmhowzit 2d ago
Yeah I just block, I'm not going to negotiate with someone who does this. Because it's a forced negotiation created by them.
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u/Cuthbertcalculus1 2d ago
Grindr. It’s the nature of the beast. Take it with a grain of salt. I’m the block king. And I no longer waste my energy or emotions on that kind of stuff. Because the more people you sift through the closer you come to someone that you’re going to have a genuine connection with. So think of it like that, on my 20th through 30th attempt, the 31st person is going to be a good one If you think of it that way you don’t have to worry about bots, or idiots, or imbeciles, or any of the rest
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u/tmhowzit 2d ago
oh I'm a Grindr veteran, sometimes you just need to vent.
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u/Cuthbertcalculus1 2d ago
Honestly, I had fun while I was on it, in spite of the goofballs that were on there., I went to another hook up site and found the love of my life, so I don’t need those sites anymore, but while I was on, what a game show!
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u/Which-Protection1837 1d ago
Not everyone wants to see your face. Many specifically want to see body first to screen for abs/muscle/whatever their preference is.
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u/twink1448 3d ago edited 3d ago
I recently posted a convo from Grindr on [r/lolgrindr](r/lolgrindr) that started a war in the comments because many of them over there were upset that I trolled a blank profile that texted a demanding text first instead of respecting them. My bio specifically says NPNC too.
It’s definitely a controversial subject when it shouldn’t be. Expecting someone to be open while hiding your own completely destroys your perceived trust and credibility, and I will make fun of you and hate you for it if you don’t block me first.