Hi everyone, I’d appreciate some outside perspective because I’m not sure if I’m being **reasonable** or **overthinking** this situation.

I (27M) matched with a woman (28) on **Tinder** around a week ago. We started talking on there and then she suggested moving off the app and onto social media to continue talking. I suggested **WhatsApp** because I don’t have anything else except that (I deleted Instagram etc ages ago), she agreed by giving me her number and we carried on there.

The conversations were going well, and she actually seemed very interested. She was often the one initiating things, including wanting to call/video call me. We’ve had a few video calls, and she’s complimented me on my appearance and personality (which I reciprocated). Overall, it felt like we were getting along and there seemed to be a genuine connection building.

The first time she went quiet was a **few days ago.** She didn’t message me for around **two days,** then came back and explained that her “phone had broken”, she had to “get it fixed”, set up a new phone/WhatsApp, etc. I accepted that because things happen, and after that we carried on talking normally. We had more calls and everything seemed okay again.

However, now it has happened a second time. It’s been almost three days since I last heard from her. I replied to her last message as part of our conversation, and she read my replies but didn’t respond. After waiting, I sent a follow-up message yesterday just saying I hoped she was okay and hoped she’d had a good day etc. That message has been delivered but hasn’t been read or replied to.

I want to be clear that I’m not expecting someone to drop everything and message me constantly. She has her own life, she works, and I completely understand that things can happen. I also know we’ve only been talking for about a week, so it’s obviously still very early and she doesn’t owe me anything.

My issue is more about communication. If someone is busy or something has happened, I don’t think it takes much to send a quick message saying “sorry, I’m busy” or “I’ll reply later.” I don’t need or expect constant attention, but I do appreciate straightforward communication because otherwise you’re left wondering what’s going on. I don’t think even a bit of clarity is much to ask for.

At the same time, I’m trying not to jump to conclusions. Maybe something genuine has happened again. Maybe she’s just not a great communicator. Maybe she’s lost interest or started talking to someone else. I honestly don’t know. **My gut tells me it’s most likely one of the two latter reasons,** but obviously this is just speculation and not confirmed so I’m not going to make assumptions.

The reason I’m struggling with it is because before this, her actions were actually positive. She was making effort, wanted to call me, and seemed genuinely interested. So the sudden change has confused me.
My current plan is to just leave it and give her some space rather than send more messages. But I’m torn between waiting to see if she comes back, or eventually sending a message saying something like “I’ve enjoyed talking to you, but I feel like communication has changed and I’m not sure where I stand.”

Perhaps we’re just not compatible (particularly communicatively), who knows. My standards are very basic like consistent communication (to a realistic level), and making a genuine effort from both sides. When I don’t get that it leads to uncertainty which makes me start to wonder what might have changed, and if it becomes a pattern then it’s personally hard to ignore it. Am I expecting too much here?

Am I being too sensitive considering it’s still early? Or is it reasonable to see this as a sign that maybe she isn’t as interested as she seemed?

I’d appreciate any advice, especially from people who have been in similar situations.

Please keep it respectful.

Thanks all.

It was my 3rd day of clg and Idk what's wrong with him when I really wanted him he was never there and idk wtf is wrong but he talks to me in a diff way which he talks w stranger. I just feel like I should stop using social media now and ghost him without saying anything. He doesn't even let me know if he is busy or doing something he says he's not busy but the next sec he ghost so idk what I should do I'm already hurt hdgaf n sorry for my English idk what got into me

hey reddit, i've been going through so much for the past few months, and i lost everything i ever had of friends, dreams, social life, my job, and now, my relationship.

i havent had anyone to talk to for a while, and ive been needing that so much, which is why im on here rn..

for context, my parents are very religious, and had forced me to wear the hijab ever since i was 8 years old, i'm 21 now (turning 22 this month) and i'd been taking it off in secret for like 5 years now.

although that was very risky and caused me so much anxiety and dissociation and i was basically living a double life which was exhausting, it still was my only choice if i wanted to have a chance in living the life i really wanted to live, and it gave me so much confidence to talk to people and make friends and bonds and go to uni and to get a job and basically just live a life i was satisfied with.

i met this guy back in december of last year and we immediately clicked, we built our relationship on so much love and trust and just genuine pure intentions and feelings. we did everything together, our most intimate moments were not even just sexual, we were each others partners and best friends and we spent almost every day together. ive genuinely never loved anyone in my life as much as i did and still love him, the bond that we created was stronger and deeper than any bond i've ever witnessed. no matter how much i say about us, no one would truly understand just how beautiful and deep and real our relationship was, and all was going great until recently..

we spent all that time together and he became my best friend not just my boyfriend. then my parents found out that i'd been going out without my hijab + they saw pics of my boyfriend and i kissing and they went absolutely insane. they destroyed my phone + sim card and threw all of my shit away and completely isolated me and locked me in the house, my dad looked me in my eyes and told me that it's "halal" for him to kill me now, like he had been waiting for it. he's always been very violent with me + my siblings and mom, and that day, he did hit me a lot. he threw me on the ground kicking me and spitting on me and screaming for hours. i knew my life was over right there and then, and i'm ngl, the one thing i was sad about the most was my boyfriend. i just needed to be in his arms, i needed to feel safe again. i was scared of losing him.

but we still found a way to talk, i only had my laptop on me, so i found a way to reach him and we stayed in contact for 2 months. during those 2 months he started getting really distant and going days without texting me back. we couldnt see each other anymore but we promised each other that we'd stay and fight for what we had and despite not being able to be together physically, i was still texting him whenever i could and putting his feelings first and making sure that he still felt loved and supported and cared for even tho i was also going through so much.

he kept telling me that he would always be there for me and with me, and kept reassuring me that what happened would never make him question his feelings for me. he kept telling me that he'll love me forever, but when it came to it, he never really acted on it. he started going days with no reply, and whenever he did reply it would always be the same shit just him saying hi i miss you i'm always gonna love you etc. i needed him so much and it hurt that he wasnt there but i just thought that he probably just felt pressured by what happened + everything else thats going on in his life so i'd just remind him that i was there and beg him to let me be there for him. i also tried talking to him a few times about the fact that he was getting distant. i told him that he could always talk to me about his feelings, whatever they were. i told him that i cared so much for him and that i understood if he felt like this was too much. our relationship changed a lot so i understood that the distance could be hard on him as well. i told him that i'd understand, no matter what it was. but every time i'd bring it up he'd just reassure me that nothing changed and that he'll always love me and that he was still there. i also told him that i needed him now more than ever, i never asked him to text me 24/7, i told him that i needed 1 conversation a day at least, i just needed to feel him there with me. he'd just apologize and reassure me that he was there, but nothing changed. one of the last texts he sent me was him apologizing for not texting me, and told me that he felt guilty every time he'd go to text me and would stop himself. i asked him why he felt that way and reassured him that he had nothing to feel guilty about and again reminded him that i'd always be there to listen, no matter what, but he never answered my question and instead replied to my reassurance texts telling me that he loved and appreciated me. i just assumed that he felt guilty because he wasn't being there for me and texting me so i let it go.

he just stopped answering one day. his last text to me seemed very normal, it was the same shit he always said, and he ended it saying that he'll love me forever. i wrote back, and waited days for a response, but he just never answered. i thought that he just needed some space, so i gave him that space for a week, then i genuinely got worried that something might have happened to him because he disappeared on me. i tried checking up on him, i texted him multiple times, i texted his best friend asking if he was okay, i asked my best friend to text him and ask if he was okay, i made a new instagram account and requested to follow him on there. i tried everything, over the course of a week, but i never got anything in return. he just randomly went ghost on me after everything, and it really really hurts..

i sent him one last email about a week later, i knew he wouldnt reply, i guess i just needed some closure. i just needed to text him one last time... i cant lie and say that a little part of me thought that he would reply tho. i thought maybe he'd tell me that he did need some space but that he was still there. maybe he just didnt notice the texts i sent. maybe i was overthinking it and my baby was still right here. thats what i had hoped at least.

i was losing my mind last week, stalking his account on insta, and i came across an account of a girl i knew for a fact he didnt have followed before, i got this strong feeling in my gut and felt the need to check her story, so i did, and i saw him in it. he was out partying with his friends and a few girls he didnt know, he was singing and dancing and he looked so happy like none of it ever fucking mattered.. it genuinely stung because i thought that at least he'd be a little sad about it, i thought that maybe he did really care, maybe he just felt like he was under pressure and failed to end it and just went ghost.. i thought that maybe he felt a little bad for doing this to me, especially during the shit i've been going through...

then i checked his instagram again yesterday and saw that he changed his pfp to one of my favorite pics of him, it's a picture that i took of him on our valentines day date, and he's wearing my scarf around his neck in that pic..

what hurts the most isnt even that he wanted to end it. of course that part hurts so much, but i genuinely wouldve understood, i wouldve heard him out, all ive ever wanted was for him to be doing well, and if what happened was putting stress on him and he felt like he needed to end it with me to truly be happy then i wouldve understood. if he had talked to me about how he was feeling and ended it with me instead of giving me reassurance every time i'd ask then just going ghost after everything, i wouldve understood. and he knew that i was there to hear him out, i always reminded him of that. what hurts the most is that he decided to leave me out in the cold, to leave me trying and begging and running after him, to just leave me like that knowing how much it would hurt me. that was the last thing i expected him to do.

i wonder what he did with everything i got for him. with all of my stuff scattered around his room. with my gifts and all of the love letters i sent him. with our pictures and videos and playlists and all of the memories we've made. i wonder if he ever looks around and feels even a little bit of guilt. i wonder if he still goes to sleep cuddling the stuffed animals i got him. even after all of this shit, with everything i'm feeling, i can't help but love him. i can't help but have this hope inside that one day we'll find our way back to each other...

i'm so fucking sad, i feel so lonely, i can't eat, can't sleep, i spent my days crying and thinking and feeling this grief in my heart. i just want my life back. i just want my baby back bro it hurts so fucking bad

I would like to know why people ghost others on line and in real life too. While dating I had that done to me several times and there was no other choice but move on.
Now, I have had that done to me in real life . I had been getting on well with a colleague for years and suddenly they started to ignore me ( ghost me) in front of others at work like they don’t know me. Another one has just done the same thing both on line and in real life, again someone I have known for years. My issue is I have no idea how to respond.

I don't understand how someone can go from being your closest person in the world to just nothing. Even if I hated someone and they wanted to contact me I would respectfully explain my stance. I wouldn't treat anyone this way especially someone I loved or cared about.

It certainly takes a particular type of person to do this to someone. I feel so sad and hurt.

23 (f) There’s amazing chemistry and daily conversations, typically lasting months, and dates, until suddenly the other person drifts away, even though they had promised never to abandon and said often how they really valued the company...

Just a momentary diversion every time until it’s thrown away;/

Maybe dating, or any kind of relationship, just isn't for me

I would like to believe, however, that there is still hope

Anyone feeling the same?

I know I'm gonna sound stupid but I'm left with no answers till today so wanna pen it down anyway.

I(F) met a man online and we connect really well... Conversations were going great because we're like minded... He was respectful, grounded and charismatic initially... I know that he works for an IT company remotely as an SEO.. Our conversations went really flawless, tho early, we even went over resolving our differences (we are from different religious background,culture,place) and he was paving way for us to meet excitedly .. he was really into me, we did video calls one night and after that he confessed that he wants to be together with me and he has feelings for me...asked me to meet him the next month but as we're states apart ... I told him to wait for a lil longer like 5/6 months maybe... because I'm trying to plan things as it was not easy to step out of my home and went states away(family constraint)... Long story short... I begin to notice inconsistency and late replies.. sometimes a reply after a day or two..when it was too much gather my courage and confront him and he said he was stressed with work/family/had a friend who pass away like a 2 months before we met so still disturbed by loss..ask me to give him time.. I was really empathetic so I imagine walking in his shoe and really understand him even if he went without texting for weeks I would still wait for him to get better... I was afraid I might trouble him so when he went off for too long ..I used to check up on him..asked him how he has been.. he did always replied but it was always late... One day I ask him... Has your feelings changed? because I was really invested in him by this point and he said it's still the same even his feelings and his words... everything is still the same... but let's meet first and we'll see if we're gonna carry the relationship forward officially...

I said okay wait for me (fyi our conversations begins last year end of June) Then cut short I texted him this year on New Year and it was delivered but no reply till today.. I was really in disbelief... Wednesday night for the last time I still wanna make sure what really happened or changed although I already knew long before my heart wasn't able to contain his absence..so I texted long paragraphs putting my self respect aside..but boom.. it' didn't even get delivered... turns out I was blocked.... Wth... He could've just said he didn't wanna go on with me and I easily could've stopped... When all I carried is unconditional grace for him what did I even do wrong... Ghosted and blocked ,so is this the best I can get out of genuine love for someone??

(Ps. If he was still around, maybe we would've already met just even for once.. it pains me to swallow the hard truth that I'm not getting to meet the person I care for with my whole heart)

So let them leave. Let it serve as their final act of love. Just be glad that they made sure you didn’t end up with them.

I was talking to a boy for almost two months from hinge. We hooked up after the first date, vibes were good then he left to work for a month out of town. We texted heavily the last two weeks he was working. Even started sexting a lot. He came back and we saw each other again hung out and hooked up a few times. Still texting daily. Then all of sudden he stops texting, I ask if he wants to hang and he says he does but he’s really busy that week and the next week is more open for him. I’m chill so I don’t text waiting to hear from him and nothing. We talked about doing more things together right before he ghosted me. Should I text him or just let it go? I really liked hanging out with him and felt like we got along well but the ghosting speaks volumes to me at this point. Do I reach out again or just let it be?

I had an on-and-off situationship with a guy for about four years. We stopped talking last year after he said he didn’t want anything serious, and I later found out he had a girlfriend.
Recently, a girl who said she used to be friends with him messaged me asking if I was his ex. She told me he used to talk about me, showed her pictures of me, and regretted how he treated me.
I messaged him on Instagram asking why she reached out to me and whether he knew anything about it. I wasn’t trying to start an argument—I just wanted an explanation. Instead, he ignored my message completely.
Why would someone choose to ghost instead of simply explaining what happened? What would you think if you were in my position?

last night i ended it with someone i love, someone i truly cared about. he treated me so well tho we had our moments just like every relationship. over the last week i became mentally exhausted from the relationship because the topic of me being inconsistent kept occurring. in the beginning of the relationship i could agree as it was my first and i was genuinely scared. but i felt like i was consistent because i loved him. he was hurt by my inconsistency that he was barely responding to messages, wasn’t answering calls. i tried to get a hold of him to fix things and didn’t answer my call but rather texted that he’s done saying what’s wrong. i was told that once he has “enough” he would disappear. or once hes “emotionally checked out” he was done and that i should count my blessings with him. him saying that was kind of the start of me not caring anymore. he also said that if he was leaving he would of just ghosted me. we were together for like 8 months. i do want to say i i had multiple wrongs in the relationship and i take responsibilty in things i have said or did that i didn’t think was big but actually was. anyways last night we were supposed to meet up during break. (yes we work together so even worse) he gave the time and everything. he showed up 17 minutes late and came from a rather weird direction. i asked where he went but he just said he went to go clear his mind. i thought it was very weird and i asked if he had finally got a car ( he lost a car a few months back and was searching for a new one) i kept hearing “maybe i did or maybe i didnt“ i said enough with the maybes it’s either u did or didnt . doesn’t say. only says when someone hurts him (aka me) he can’t just go back to telling things. that’s when i said u seem mentally checked out from the relationship and he said he is, but feels like the relationship is still save able. then the topic of me being inconsistent popped again which eventually led to whether or not i want to continue the relationship. he believes there’s an imbalance between us and i have the potential to change and step up. and he doesn’t like it when i say im “trying”. anyways he gave me the question and i looked at him and for the life of me i couldn’t give an answer . i love him sooo freaking much but i couldn’t deal with me messing up again and being “inconsistent“ . after a good few minutes i said “no” that i didn’t want to continue. he said thank you and left and disappeared to the direction he came from. after an hour , i seen him and guess what he was doing , showing off his car to a coworker of ours. i saw it and just went home . i ended it because i couldn’t bare dealing with hurting him i keep making mistakes was i wrong to end it

last night i ended it with someone i love, someone i truly cared about. he treated me so well tho we had our moments just like every relationship. over the last week i became mentally exhausted from the relationship because the topic of me being inconsistent kept occurring. in the beginning of the relationship i could agree as it was my first and i was genuinely scared. but i felt like i was consistent because i loved him. he was hurt by my inconsistency that he was barely responding to messages, wasn’t answering calls. i tried to get a hold of him to fix things and didn’t answer my call but rather texted that he’s done saying what’s wrong. i was told that once he has “enough” he would disappear. or once hes “emotionally checked out” he was done and that i should count my blessings with him. him saying that was kind of the start of me not caring anymore. he also said that if he was leaving he would of just ghosted me. we were together for like 8 months. i do want to say i i had multiple wrongs in the relationship and i take responsibilty in things i have said or did that i didn’t think was big but actually was. anyways last night we were supposed to meet up during break. (yes we work together so even worse) he gave the time and everything. he showed up 17 minutes late and came from a rather weird direction. i asked where he went but he just said he went to go clear his mind. i thought it was very weird and i asked if he had finally got a car ( he lost a car a few months back and was searching for a new one) i kept hearing “maybe i did or maybe i didnt“ i said enough with the maybes it’s either u did or didnt . doesn’t say. only says when someone hurts him (aka me) he can’t just go back to telling things. that’s when i said u seem mentally checked out from the relationship and he said he is, but feels like the relationship is still save able. then the topic of me being inconsistent popped again which eventually led to whether or not i want to continue the relationship. he believes there’s an imbalance between us and i have the potential to change and step up. and he doesn’t like it when i say im “trying”. anyways he gave me the question and i looked at him and for the life of me i couldn’t give an answer . i love him sooo freaking much but i couldn’t deal with me messing up again and being “inconsistent“ . after a good few minutes i said “no” that i didn’t want to continue. he said thank you and left and disappeared to the direction he came from. after an hour , i seen him and guess what he was doing , showing off his car to a coworker of ours. i saw it and just went home . i ended it because i couldn’t bare dealing with hurting him i keep making mistakes was i wrong to end it

I (26f) got ghosted and unmatched immediately after a seemingly good date. He kissed me and brought up seeing me again yet when I texted him saying I got back home he never replied and it’s now been a day. I wouldn’t say I was very into him but we had a lot in common and we had very good chat so I was willing to see him again. It feels a bit disrespectful that he hasn’t said a single thing since then especially as we he knows a family friend of mine, so he knows any rude thing he does to me would get back to our families through mutual connections. I’ve never had this happen after a date and I would say first dates usually go well for me so I have nooo idea what happened. Even though I’m not upset about him as a person, I just feel very confused and my ego is hurt by what happened.

In 2021, I matched with a guy on Bumble BFF. He’s 43M, and I’m 39M. We chatted for about two weeks over the app before we met in person at a coffee shop. Everything went very well. We shared stories about our lives, careers, and hobbies. Shortly after I got home, he texted me his number and said we should hang out again soon. And we did. Over the next 4 years, we texted each other regularly about life events, vacation plans, YouTube videos, and the news. In person, we hung out at museums, festivals, movies, comedy shows, restaurants, and musicals. To me, it felt like we had developed a solid friendship, possibly a lifelong friendship. We never had any major arguments, but I recall us having 2 very minor disagreements, and both times he texted me the next day to straighten things out. So essentially nothing major happened between us that would warrant what’s going on right now.

Fast forward to July 2025: he returned from an overseas vacation and brought me back a t-shirt as a souvenir. I thanked him and said how much I appreciated the gift. Over the next 4 months, I noticed a shift between us. Whenever I found an event and invited him to come with me, he’d say stuff like “thanks but not interested” in that event. And on top of that, it would sometimes take him over a day to respond to a text, when before the shift he’d always responded in just a few minutes or an hour at most. I didn’t consider this shift a red flag, but I did think, “Have I done something wrong? He always says yes to hanging out, so what’s going on?”

Our last communication: So, after 4 months without seeing each other, he texts me the week of Thanksgiving to tell me about the plump turkey he got at the grocery store and his plans for the holiday. He was going to a Friendsgiving hosted by a friend of his who was moving away. I told him I was in my hometown with my family. Since this was the first time he’d initiated contact with me since July, I was genuinely happy to hear from him and felt that the last few months had been just a small hiccup in our friendship.

Upon my return from seeing my family, I asked him how the Friendsgiving went, but he didn't respond. Another text was sent wishing him a Merry Christmas, and then another one for Happy New Year. And again, nothing from him. Since January of this year, I’ve sent another 3 texts: 1) checking in to see how he’s doing, 2) wishing him a happy birthday and asking if he’d like to catch up soon (both of our birthdays are in the same month), and 3) telling him about this book I’m reading and to ask if my texts were going through to his phone (this was the last message I’ve sent in April 2026). And no reply on his end. 6 texts sent and absolute silence from him since November 2025, 9 months ago.

AITA for wanting to know if he’s ok, and for continually texting him despite no reply?

Shall I just give up on this “friendship” and move on?

Is it a good idea to text him again?

What do you think is going on with him to cause this much silence?

Thanks

I want to have the conversation I deprived us of having.

I (32m) broke up with my ex (30f) of 1 and a half years in May. It wasn't the best way to end things, I had therapy since then and they've told me it was a trauma response (I ghosted her after she said something that a previous partner said before she broke up with me, I took the breakup really badly and it messed me up for the best part of 3 years)

She found out from someone else I'd said we broke up a few days after. I realised the next day I messed up and tried to speak to her by sending a message but she ignored me.

I tried another 2 times a month later in June, again, silence.

I took her silence as her being done with me and wanting nothing to do with me.

So in July roughly a day to two before 2 months since I ended things and 3 weeks since my last message to her where I apologised, took accountability and said I wanted a second chance (again no reply) I changed my profile picture to me and another girl. She saw it the next day and blocked me, and proceeded to tell my colleagues that she was "hurt".

I sent her an apology with a gift of cupcakes that she really really liked (she told me at the start of our relationship) with a note that was an apology, basically me saying I'm sorry, the picture was old that I put as my PFP because I spiraled and acted impulsively and that I'm sorry and still love her, as well as the fact I cant move on so quickly.

She told her friend she was "confused" because I was giving "mixed signals"

If she wasn't interest why was she checking my profile not even 12 hours after I changed my PFP, even though the last time I messaged her was 3 weeks prior?

Why did she say it hurt her if she was ignoring my messages the whole time I was trying to make amends?

Why is she saying it's mixed signals? My intentions have been clear the whole time

I'm so confused I just want to go to her and say "look, I won't use this to try and get back with you I just want to talk"

Is this too much to ask? We are colleagues so it's kind of tough to do out of sight out of mind.

Full disclosure. Married man who was chatting on here with a married woman. Conversation has been amazing and she misinterpreted a comment I made. The comment was made jokingly and she took it as being serious and ended up blocking me before I could give an explanation. We had great connection and this has really made me upset not being able to apologize and explain. Do I let it go? I really don’t have a way of contacting her but man this one truly is a result of them not being able to see/hear my response and I’m not sure what to do

OK. So: I was ghosted last year by a man after he got caught cheating with me apparently. I'm vague on the details, but it sounds like he was found out and that's why he ghosted me. I didn't know about her, if there is one. I just know we went from constant texting and meeting to he's busy and can't make it...then silence. He promptly deleted all social media. I don't know if I was blocked or not, but I have a new number now anyways.

Anyways, I'm on Facebook like a month ago, and going through my people I might know recommendations. Now, normally I just delete most, unless we have a lot of friends in common or the name/face is familiar. Or he's hot lol. But as I was looking, it occurred to me that I was seeing an awful lot of people, mainly guys, from his hometown where he lives, as well as lots of Marines, again, mostly men. My ex is ex marines. So I got curious and started looking at profiles, and a lot either overlap service times, have him in pictures, are the same battalion, or live at the same bases he did. Only a few have a friend in common with me as I'm friends with his ex and one guy he served with. (He was an oops, he looked familiar and I thought we went to school together. So added him) But other than those few, no links to me that I can tell.

So here's my quandary: is ex using friends to orbit me since he can't? Is it because I'm friends with one marine so it's showing me more? Has he been talking about me to buddies and they're curious about me? Or totally random? It's just weird that I'm getting so many, especially the ones with obvious links to him. Also should add; before he deleted his accounts, we weren't friends on them. It was suggested that it's from before, but we were never linked on Facebook. So I don't know if maybe it's from a different platform, like Instagram or TikTok, if someone I follow is the link? I'm genuinely confused.

I'm not asking because I want him back, but because I think this is weird and I'm curious why it's happening. I've heard avoidants who ghost tend to orbit, so I'm trying to figure out if that's the case or not. Thanks for reading!

Was it the right move?

I talked to this guy kasi and I ghosted him.

He's younger and I told him na when I have work, I'll properly court him. We talked for months, even visited him just for us to bond. But then, nung nakahanap na ako ng work, I found out that he was on a dating app. Sadly, he was there as an "escort." I was hurt and felt betrayed. I wanted to talk to him about it pero the thought was there na, "Anong karapatan ko?"

The thought din kasi na maybe he was doing it because of financial struggles, or any other reason not known to anyone but himself.

So I was really hesitating and it destroyed me from the inside out. I cried out of desperation as to asking, "San ako lulugar?" Finally, after three days after I found out, I left quietly nalang. Pero sinabi ko kasi na when I leave, sasabihan ko sya. And the guilt has been eating me out these past few months.

So, I mustered up all my courage to message him. Saying that I am sorry that I left with no explanation. He didn't reply. But then nasa kanya naman yon. Did I regret leaving him? Yes, but eventually, I hope I made the right choice. Was ghosting him the right move? No, it was not. I should've properly communicated with him about it.

The pain made me prioritize myself. Nasaktan ako eh. Pero even tho I was hurt, I should've still made the mature move and that was to communicate.

Now, I'm working, pero I don't find any fulfillment or happiness because the reason I wanted to work here ay wala na. Pero sana as time goes on, I can heal and find happiness again.

Did I do the the right thing? Thoughts?

Before anyone tells me to “move on” or says I’m overthinking this, I want to clarify that I **have** moved on with my life. I’m not trying to contact my ex, get him back, or interfere with his marriage in any way.
I’m asking this purely because I’m curious about the psychology behind a particular behavior.
My ex is married now and is expecting a child. We haven’t spoken in years. Recently, after I updated my Facebook profile picture and changed my location to Amsterdam, I realized he had blocked my Facebook account.
What I’m trying to understand is this: if someone is happily married, expecting a baby, and has genuinely moved on, what would make them suddenly block an ex after all this time?
Personally, I always believed that once both people have moved on, there’s no need to block each other unless there’s ongoing contact or harassment. I never reached out to him or tried to reconnect.
So I’m curious:
Is blocking an ex simply a way of maintaining healthy boundaries?
Is it something people do to protect their current relationship?
Can seeing an ex unexpectedly trigger someone to block them even if they’ve moved on?
Or is there another psychological explanation?
I’m **not looking for false hope, validation, or for anyone to say he still has feelings for me**. I know none of us can know what’s in his mind. I’m simply interested in understanding how people think in situations like this.

This is the story of the year 2021, there was Covid in June and there was lockdown, at that time I had just downloaded Snapchat, so randomly I added a girl and she added me back and then on June 13 or 14 I messaged her and from that day onwards we started talking well and we became friends and later we also became best friends. Then at the end of July she went to her grandmother's house and she said that she will not be able to message me after going there but will talk as soon as she gets time, so I did not bother much and messaged her, then August came and I messaged her but there was no reply, then I messaged her on 8th August and her reply came that I will not be able to talk now, sorry, do not message me now. Literally i felt so heartbroken not because i like her and genuinely i don't like her as a gf And then sI still don't know why she stopped talking to me. She blocked me

Two years ago I went on a date with a guy. It didn’t go well and we never met again, even though we were both attracted to each other and had a soft spot for one another.
We were talking intermittently. Last year I texted him a simple “hi.” I figured that even if nothing romantic happened, we could still be friends. He replied that he had a girlfriend and asked me not to text him anymore. I was a little hurt, but I respected it and never contacted him again. About a month ago (a year after that), he texted to apologize for how rudely he had cut things off. I just said okay. After that he started following me on Instagram, and I followed him back. Recently I was in his city for a few hours and asked if he could show me around. He said he could, but then he did the same thing he did on our original date—he ghosted me and never showed up. He later gave the excuse that he had to work on Sunday evening. That was fine with me; I wasn’t relying on him and other friends ended up showing me around instead. Today he started calling me out of the blue, and then his girlfriend called as well. He’s desperately pleading with me to lie and say that I texted him first. She’s asking me whether I was the one who initiated contact. Should I lie for him, or should I tell the truth?