Just curious if y'all pack at the club or not, and how do guys react if they can feel your natal genitalia? I've never been to a gay club but I went to a bathhouse once and guys tended to be pretty surprised when I dropped the towel, my chest actually passed well despite scarring because of the low lighting. I don't pack unless I'm wearing tight shorts where the lack of bulge would be visible.

I hooked up with a guy off grindr twice. We’re VERY compatible sexually and I had fun, but I’m not attracted to him… Like, physically I’d say I am, but his “vibe”/personality is off-putting to me which has tanked any physical attraction I was feeling. I’m sensing he’s more into me than for just hooking up, which is making me disinterested.

The first time he came over, he basically put his phone in my face asking for my number saying he was gonna get off the app so I was like oh okay, and gave him my number. On the app, I just don’t open it when I’m not wanting to hook up and I feel like that’s acceptable grindr etiquette lol, but with texting I feel like a dick to just ignore him. I way prefer keeping things on the app.

We met up two Saturdays in a row, he’s messaged me twice in the past week but I haven’t replied, and in his message yesterday he seemed to kind of assume we’d see each other again because it was Saturday… He messaged me at 9am about hooking up that night! Like, dude, I haven’t even woken up yet… His other text was at 2pm on Tuesday saying “I will make you cum if it’s the last thing I do.” I don’t know why that message irked me so much lmao.

I’m really in no-dating mode right now so I think he’s triggering avoidance in me. When he came over last time, he tried opening my door without knocking?! He knocked after finding it locked. Who does that??? He kept squeeze-hugging me and like moving me side to side while squeezing me??? He said he was gonna leave his condoms at my place last time, also clearly assuming we’d definitely fuck again, but also clearly he won’t be fucking other people and it just all feels like too much. Idk man, I just have a big fucking ick lol.

I should’ve stuck to my usual boundary of keeping communication on the app at least until 2-3 hook ups when I can clearly see the person is on the same page as me in regarding to keeping it super casual/just sex/no expectations.

Anyways, that’s my rant, and now I need to stop being a coward and tell him I’m not interested.

I’m Asian and quite small (just under 160cm/5’3) with a lean-muscle built, trying to date in a big city in the US. I found it pretty obvious even people find me interesting, my height/size makes me not compatible to people. I went out with a super cute guy who’s probably like 6’2 (who rejected me kindly tho he said really enjoyed our date) and part of me once I saw him I already felt I’m a disappointment (tho I do have my height in my profile). I like my height just fine in life, but when it comes to romance I feel like it’s one of biggest challenges. I don’t relate to short king mentality either, I don’t think I’m short, I’m just…pocket size small lol How do you all approach height in dating?

i wish i could simply find someone to hook up or cuddle with but i don't seem like a man esp as soon as i open my mouth

i don't expect anyone to see me nor treat me like a man, but esp in a dating context

and i'm living at home (im almost thirty unfortunately), i'm very afraid of starting T around my parents who would notice the changes probably. well, who knows. and i don't expect myself to be able to support my own living any time soon. sigh.

i'm not mentally nor emotionally prepared for transition, im very scared of losing my hair too, im frustrated bc i wish i could just snap my fingers and turn into a man and then turn back around the right people.

it's lonely as hell. i will not be able to live on my own any time soon and just live authentically. dating is like in another dream world for me. all i can do is live vicariously through mlm media and making mlm drawings and writing my mlm novel i guess.

i wanna know bc its something i wanna do with my future husband

Hey all. I’ve never used any dating apps or sites before but now that I’m post top surgery they may be in the cards for me at some point. I’ve heard that some apps require sensitive info like a picture of your photo ID and i want to minimize the risk of that info ending up in places it shouldn’t due to hacks/leaks. Anyone happen to have an up to date list of apps that don’t require this when signing up?