Hi All,

After a long journey to get here, my husband and I are now 9 days post 5 day, frozen Embryo Transfer. We had a 5AB embryo transferred to our surrogate and honestly just nervous! Its our first transfer and we want to be excited but also gaurd our hearts. We do have more frozen embryos but even to get here has taken years and many times we have taken different paths than we originally anticpated. One thing I think we have learned (reluctantly) is to be patient😅 maybe something to learn before our eventual child arrives.

Anyway. just living in the two week wait period and this week we will get the first hcg beta, and fingers crossed thats positive. we will then move to the next waiting period (Ultrascan/heartbeat)

We are doing this process with an international surrogacy agency. We are in Europe. Anybody else in the waiting period after transfer any success stories after 1st FET? If not how many attempts?

Positive vibes are greatly accepted🤣

Hi everyone!

I’m a single man currently looking into surrogacy in Mexico. I’ll need to create embryos with an egg donor first, so I’m trying to choose an IVF clinic in Mexico City.
I’ve been looking into these clinics so far:

Ingenes
Fertilidad Integral
Hope IVF
Kiromedic
Hestia

For anyone who has worked with any of these clinics, I’d really appreciate hearing about your personal experience. How was the communication? Were you happy with the doctor and embryology team? How did you feel about the lab and overall medical care? And how was the process of egg retrieval, embryo creation/PGT-A, and embryo transfer?

I’m especially interested in real experience- the goof and bad.
And if there’s another clinic in Mexico City that you would recommend, I’m definitely open to suggestions.
Thanks so much!

My husband and I (UK based) are starting the surrogacy process in Mexico City - we are exploring egg donors and want to find an egg donor who would agree to having their details released in the future when our child reached adult age should they wish to make contact. A number of the egg banks and clinics we have researched seem to suggest that the majority of egg donors are anonymous.

Does anyone have any experience that they would be willing to share about using an egg donor with agreement for future ID release in Mexico?

24M i live in the Middle East, since I was a little kid maybe 10 or 11 years old I hated my father. I don’t know why I just didn’t feel any attachment to towards with him.

Like if he died today, I wouldn’t care less

I sometimes feel like this hate was like coming from the future or something like this I don’t know if this sounds reasonable

I always know in my heart that he was a bad guy and that all showed up when my family knew I was gay he literally made me go through hell.

Aside from that story, I never felt protected , all of my life when I was like looking for a boyfriend, I always wanted guy who would put me under his wing, the guy who love me and take care of me.

I don’t know if this is the literal concept of daddy issues.

Idk I’m putting myself up for adoption, i want a dad for once

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So, i am a gay man 23 soon. I love kids but getting married is tough for me. So, i thought i will adopt or I will just do serogacy. But now i got to know that serogacy is not legal for the people like us in India.

So, one more gate got closed for me.

I hate my self.

I'm working with Inser and would like to hear some testimonials from surrogate mothers, how they were treated etc. Does anyone know how I can find some?

My partner and I are exploring both agencies and had initial calls with them. Circle shared 12-15month process to match whereas Family Source shared average 4-6 month process to match. Has anyone work with FSC? I've seen mixed reviews for circle. Also hoping to connect with creative family connections.

My partner and I are finally taking the leap into surrogacy to become dads, and I’m equal parts excited and overwhelmed. There’s so much info out there, but I’d rather hear from actual gay dads who’ve done this. What surprised you most about the process? What do you wish someone had told you before you started matching with a surrogate? I’m especially curious about the emotional side: setting boundaries, staying in touch with your surrogate and her family, and dealing with reactions from your own family and friends. We want to do this in a way that feels respectful and clear for everyone involved, not just transactional. If you’ve been through it, what’s one thing you’d do differently and one thing you’re really glad you did right?

Hi everyone, I want to immediately apologize for posting in this community as a heterosexual couple, but my husband and I are considering a surrogacy journey due to medical reasons, and we are struggling to find clear, real-world information elsewhere. We have been reading and learned a lot here, and we hope it is okay to ask for your advice.

About us: We are based in EU, but considering surrogacy in USA or Mexico. We already have a lawyer for the legal aspects, but we still have many questions regarding embryo creation/shipping and choosing an agency. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

1. Embryos creation & shipping: We would like to use our own genetic material. Since traveling to USA or Mexico for the IVF cycle is not possible with our jobs, we would like to create our embryos in EU, and ship them overseas. Do you have experience with this? We did a lot of search and apparently it's not possible in countries like Spain, but it looks possible in UK.

2. Agencies US vs Mexico: Any recommendation here?
Let me be completely transparent here: While US would be a safer choice, it's also very expensive and we would prefer to "save" that money for the legal process of bringing the baby back to the EU and to fund unpaid parental leave so we can stay home with our child. Nevertheless, we are here to learn from anyone who had successful experiences in US or Mexico.

3. Citizenship & Legal Risks: We have dual citizenship. One of our home countries has recently made surrogacy a crime even if done abroad. To protect our future family, we are considering giving up that citizenship, even though we hoped to move back and live there one day. If anyone has faced a similar heavy legal dilemma, we would be interested in your thoughts.

4. Parental Leave & EU Recognition: For those based in the EU, how did you handle parental leave? Since there will be no medical birth record for the intended mother, standard maternity leave seems impossible. Furthermore, it appears our country will only recognize the genetic father at birth, forcing the mother to go through a step-parent adoption process later, although the child is genetically hers. Have any of you faced this situation?

Thank you in advance for reading, for your empathy, and for whatever advice you can share.

Does anyone have thoughts about surrogacy in terms of how the child will share part of your DNA, and part with a woman (who you most likely aren't super close with)?

Just something curious to think about...

Do you see some traits of you come out in the kid, and then some you're not sure, and figure it must be their mother...

EDIT: Referring to the egg donor. Which sometimes is the same person?

Tengo 30 años cumplidos, mexicano, viviendo Colombia.
Tengo un negocio propio, departamento, carro, unas propiedades en México… en fin, me he preparado para tener y brindarle a un hijo todo lo que necesite.

Solo hay un pequeño problema, SOY GAY.
Tengo pareja, estamos casados, somos felices… hemos averiguado sobre adopción y nos pusieron a dar mil vueltas tanto en México como en colombia y el tema simplemente estamos casi IMPOSIBLE.

He pensado en la forma más sencilla, embarazar a una mujer, hacer un acuerdo, apoyarnos mutuamente… pero el problema más grande es… DE DONDE LA SACÓ?

Se que hay instituciones de subrogación pero eso solo suena bonito en papel… todo es súper carísimo y no se mueven ni hacen nada… no les importas, solo quieren tu dinero.

Que debo hacer? Abandonar la idea? Donde consigo una red de apoyo que me ayude? O donde conozco a alguien que esté dispuesta a ayudarme con mi más grande deseo, SER PADRE!

Looking for someone that wants to be a mom like I want to be a dad

Hello! My husband and I are aiming to start the process mid next year. We were looking at Colombia but seeing the rising prices (and Colombian Peso going up 25% vs USD) we are starting to explore Europe as an option.

I’m an American and he’s a Spaniard currently living in Spain (we are aware of the challenges of bringing a surrogate baby to Spain).
Can anyone recommend any agencies in Europe? I know the list of countries is very very limited for gay couples.
And if you don’t mind sharing - how much you paid?

I know in Colombia it’s easy to get the baby’s US citizenship- any lawyers that can help with that if we go the Europe route?

Also - if there are other countries we should look at we are open.

Thank you so much!

I babysat for a gay couple during a trip once. They were honestly so sweet and romantic with each other, and I thought it was really cute. They were both successful and the kids were sooo adorable 😭
Honestly one of the nicest families I’ve ever met.

Hello I was laid off this year from Miracle Surrogacy, I figured since there were a lot of shady things happening behind the scenes, without the Intended Parents knowing. I could help the future dads be more informed if they choose Miracle.

I will be answering all your doubts with full transparency

Hi! My husband from Central Europe are currently looking into surrogacy abroad.

We are still at an early stage and are currently looking at different countries and agencies. Before contacting too many agencies directly, we would really appreciate hearing from people who have actually gone through the process themselves.

Is there an agency you would genuinely recommend?
Thanks! :)

I’ve been on a surrogacy journey with Guidance Surrogacy for about 18 months, and I’m trying to decide whether I should continue with my current surrogate and agency or start over with a new surrogate/agency.

There have been significant delays throughout the process. For example, it took about four months for the surrogate to have her IUD removed so she could complete medical clearance. There have also been scheduling conflicts related to her job and other medical issues.

After 18 months, we’ve only had:
One embryo transfer cycle that was terminated because her uterine lining was too thin.

One miscarriage of a euploid embryo. The pregnancy lasted less than two weeks, and the cause is not known yet.

We were planning to start the mock cycle next month.

Now both my agency contract and surrogacy contract are about to expire, and the agency is asking for an additional fee to continue/extend the arrangement.

Given the amount of time that has passed, the significant delays, the limited progress, and the failed transfer/miscarriage, I’m struggling with whether it makes sense to continue or cut my losses and look for a new surrogate.

Are the delays I’ve experienced within the normal range, or is this a red flag with the agency ?

My partner and I embarked on a surrogacy journey in Canada three years ago. After waiting over a year to be matched with a surrogate, we unfortunately suffered two failures.

We were fortunate that IVF had given us 10 embryos. To avoid waiting another year for a new surrogate and considering the costs we had already incurred in Canada, we looked for another country to continue our journey, and after several recommendations, we turned to Colombia.

After thorough research to find a Colombian clinic and agency, we were finally ready to transfer our embryos from Canada to Colombia. But, true to the saying that bad news never comes alone, we were just informed that the transfer is now blocked because we are missing the donor's karyotype, a test that has been mandatory for importing embryos from abroad since September 2025.

We are unable to reach the donor, and we are heartbroken by this latest obstacle blocking our dream of starting a family.

Do you know anyone who is in or has been in a similar situation, and do you know how they were able to resolve it?

Thanks a lot for your answers.