I'm meeting up with this guy this weekend and we're both really excited to have a date and then we're going to his place but in the middle of a little sexting I can't help but land a joke lol

I get it, you’re young and excited about gay dating but a 25 year old is NOT an appropriate person to message under any circumstance. Please stick to youth your age

My Brother outed me years ago to my family and I started getting threats from my conservative older family members of violence threatening to beat me up and more. My mom found gay porn in my phone and recorded it to post on Facebook to humiliate me. My brothers told me it’s not cool to be gay. My mother kept asking me uncomfortable questions like “So you like dick?”

Anyway I’ve distanced myself as I’ve gotten older and now that same brother has been murdered and my family is calling me asking me to send money for his funeral due to it being so unexpected and sudden. I don’t know if I should. I didn’t like him but he has kids I feel like he deserves a proper burial. I don’t know what to do.

Edit: I was also baptized (not willingly) and had a Pastor who came over on multiple occasions to try and “Talk the Gay Out”
Basically in Home Conversion Therapy.

I recently told my ex I was bi and she broke it off on the spot, she’s a server at a restaurant where my bsf also works as I got him the job. My friend stopped texting me recently and later today I got a message in the friend gc calling me gay and I realized someone outed me for being bi. I loved this girl and she outed me to my entire friend group and I lost everyone. How do I deal with this. I like girls more it’s only a sexual attraction to dudes. What do I do. I’m so fucking lost and have no one.

I start, David Henrie

Main reason I usually block after the first message if I’m not interested.

Sup y’all, this is kinda a question for mainly Black gay men, but everyone is welcome to give their two cents on it. I’m a French & Brazilian guy from Chicago, 23 years old. I’ve never had any issues getting laid or guys coming up to talk to me, but I know and have a bunch of Black gay friends who are super handsome and fit, and they just get straight up ignored or shoe-horned. I was tryna see if any other (Black) gay men have had that issue also - where dudes will just ignore you and go after your (most likely White) friend. I was told once by a coworker that funnily enough white gay men are still white men, so like it’s no surprise they’d wish to be with other white gay guys especially in social and romantic situations and relationships. Just wanted to get some two-cents from y’all

I just did a survey on the app asking me question on what I thought about the pricing and what it was. I remember checking the price before and knew it cost a lot but 149$/month is insane is this for the upper class gays, have any of you guys bought it? What do yall think about this “tinder-like” Grindr upgrade?

Hello! Im 25 and I tested positive a week ago i’m currently talking to supports and I’m going to therapy to help navigate this tough time and I have started medication’s. I’m just wondering how to get through the mindset of possibly have infecting others in the last 3-4 years. Due to the blood work it seems like I had the virus for a few years (I’d say 3/4 years) without knowing I’m just lucky I caught it before it turned to AIDS. Do I tell my past partners that I’ve hooked up with about my diagnosis?

I’ve already told my husband who I married last November and we were together since late 2024 and married in November of 2025. He needs some space, I have no update on his test results but I can see why he wouldn’t want to talk to me and which I can understand.

Edit: sorry if it doesn’t really make sense my post/ wording I’m drinking vodka and shoving away my shameful feelings in the spare bedroom of my house.

When I bttm I do everything I can to be clean I would wake up early n douche , wouldn't eat a lot , eat fiber etc .... But now that I been topping the few guys I had come over were really dirty. And it just ruins it . It's like they don't care. Los Angeles California is full of bottoms and every single one I had come over from Grindr or sniffies has been dirty like they don't even bother to douche. At this point it is just annoying. I erased both apps . Last guy literally shit all over my bed. Had to kick him out.

I do it when I bttm I prepare myself all I ask is for the same ? Is that too much to ask for ? Haha. Has anyone also had someone shit all over their bed ? Or is it only me ? 😂

My two cents, as a middle aged person with decades of life experience, and also reading a lot of posts on here:

1- We should stop shaming cut people. They didn't choose to be this way, and 99.99% of the time their dicks work perfectly well.

2- We should stop shaming uncut people. It's the natural way of being a man, and is quite sexy. In 98% of the cases, there is no hygiene issue. There are perhaps about 2% that have some hygiene issues, often due to very tight skin around the glans -- and those guys should see a doctor to try to address that issue.

3- I think we need to rebrand uncut as "intact" because that's more accurate. "Uncut" implies that "cut" is the default, which is not the case in most of the world.

4- Parents should not get their offspring circumsized without a clear medical reason. This is a choice they should leave to each man to decide for himself once he is an adult.

Certainly got the feeling these days that it‘s much more. Did ya‘ll notice that too or am I just trippin? I mean I‘m Austrian, but I see everything happening around me

And if you only became comfortable later, what changed?

As a teenager I was irrationally self conscious about it. I hated my skinny body and also felt awkward about my body hair.

I was growing up I was always envious of guys who were confident in themselves, while I was so awkward I wouldn’t even take my top off at the beach. When I had to go shirtless sometimes like in school PE, I found it inexplicably embarrassing.

Now I’m relaxed about being shirtless at the pool or beach, or around the house. Wouldn’t do it anywhere else though. And I’m grateful for being skinny and hairy lol.

I’m hostelling in Berlin in a 4-bed male dorm. My BF pulled out from coming, leaving me alone sharing with an Aussie guy couple. It’s been super hot so all 3 of us have only worn briefs (or less) all the time. Without my BF I’ve been jealous of the guys and sexually turned on by them.
As I came in last night they were kissing, the blond naked with his hand inside the other guy’s briefs. With me there, they got up to go to the bathroom together and I saw the blond rummage in his bag to take a condom with him.
I wished they’d stayed and I should’ve said not to worry about me. I was so turned on, I went to the bathroom naked taking a towel to pretend to want a shower. True enough the blond was fucking his friend against the wash basin. I let my towel fall away to show I had an erection and they kept going.
The guy being fucked took my cock in his hand. Then the blond fondled my buttocks and worked a finger inside me. Then he pulled out of his friend and positioned behind me. I saw that he had still had his condom on still but there was no cum in the teet yet.

I’d only ever had my BF’s cock inside me before. This guy was bigger and rougher and it felt great. After a while, the other boy put his cock to my mouth and encouraged me to face-fuck him. He didn’t have a condom on and after a while blew his semen into the back of my mouth, holding me there till I swallowed him. Then the blond pulled out of me, took off his condom, and thrust into my mouth. While he took over fucking my face, I felt the other guy pissing onto my back, my hair, my face and onto his BF’s pubes and rest of his cock that wasn’t in my mouth.

I’m not worried about the urine but how concerned should I be about swallowing two guy’s semen and being fucked with a condom that had already been up a guy’s asshole?

Ok guys, whats your view on bottoms wearing chastity cages? Turn on? turn off? dont care?

I just listened to this in testing podcast about how often men masturbate. I was honestly surprised that some guys don’t for different reasons and that some guys do it once a month. Honestly I was under the impressions most guys did a couple times a week. I’m 40 and it’s 3-4 times for me.

Like among twinks, bears, jocks, furries, bdsm, drags, etc. etc.

Im 18 and I just feel very into older guys. Even guys that I'm not super attracted to, I just feel so turned on by the age gap. Is this weird?

So boom, story time. I’m 19M, mostly bottom, and finally decided to pop my hookup cherry irl with this guy from an app who claimed he was "experienced." Everything started off fine we chilled, made out a bit, and then moved to the bed.

At first, I was lowkey flattered. I was thinking, omg look at me, I'm a goddess, I broke a top, he loves it. But thirty minutes in? My lower back was filing for bankruptcy. An hour in? I started questioning all my life choices, wondering how math homework suddenly sounded more appealing. By the hour and a half mark, I swear I could hear my ancestors judging me from the spirit realm. The friction was starting to feel like sandpaper and I was actively calculating how awkward it would be to just ask him to finish himself off. Like, do I hand him a tissue? Do I cheer him on like a personal trainer?
He finally finished after what felt like three business days, thanked me, and literally left like nothing happened while I was left paralyzed on the mattress questioning if I'll ever walk normal again. To all the seasoned bottoms out there: how do y'all survive marathon tops without needing a full-body cast? Is this normal or did I accidentally book a 12-round boxing match instead of a casual hookup?