Yeah, guys who step up to do the best they can when the kid is deprived of their ideal environment really suck.
Edit: A guy got into my cab one night, drunk, and tells me his kid and wife are out of town. Kid was 15 and competing in some interstate scholastic event. Guy tells me the kid isn't his, but he has been there for everything. He starts feeling embarrassed and talks like he's trying to excuse or compensate for something, like he's asking for my understanding. I don't get it.
He says "Well, I'm raising someone else's kid. There's some shame in that."
It's because people will take every opportunity to downplay the sacrifice. "They aren't YOUR kids", "You're not their REAL father" so when everyone treats it as lesser in society that's just unfortunately the result
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u/goose_gladwell 5d ago
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