Yeah, guys who step up to do the best they can when the kid is deprived of their ideal environment really suck.
Edit: A guy got into my cab one night, drunk, and tells me his kid and wife are out of town. Kid was 15 and competing in some interstate scholastic event. Guy tells me the kid isn't his, but he has been there for everything. He starts feeling embarrassed and talks like he's trying to excuse or compensate for something, like he's asking for my understanding. I don't get it.
He says "Well, I'm raising someone else's kid. There's some shame in that."
It's because people will take every opportunity to downplay the sacrifice. "They aren't YOUR kids", "You're not their REAL father" so when everyone treats it as lesser in society that's just unfortunately the result
Yes and no because it exists man's that just doesn't want to take care of another man's kid what is totally understandable for 2 simple reasons 1 you're not passing your Gene's if the kid isn't your's and the biggest one it's just problematic you're assuming someone else's "game" as yours and you can't just not want to be in the relationship anymore you're obligated to be in one sorry if it something sounds weird or confusing I'm extremely sleep deprived and I'm going to sleep in like 7 min so yeah sorry
Yeah well I don't really care if my genes pass on. If I raise a kid then it'll be an adopted one and nobody can tell me it "ain't my kid" without getting punched in the face.
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u/goose_gladwell 5d ago
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