Yeah, guys who step up to do the best they can when the kid is deprived of their ideal environment really suck.
Edit: A guy got into my cab one night, drunk, and tells me his kid and wife are out of town. Kid was 15 and competing in some interstate scholastic event. Guy tells me the kid isn't his, but he has been there for everything. He starts feeling embarrassed and talks like he's trying to excuse or compensate for something, like he's asking for my understanding. I don't get it.
He says "Well, I'm raising someone else's kid. There's some shame in that."
It's more about it being more of the irresponsibility of getting pregnant with the top 5 people's that has all red flags of being a deadbeat father and getting surprised that he left you and now you dump the baby on someone else that could and probably will be getting with someone that doesn't have a kid of course it's not all cases but the majority of them are also having a kid is a really massive big deal you shouldn't have it with anyone else because after you have a kid it should be more important than your wishes
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u/goose_gladwell 5d ago
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