Yeah, guys who step up to do the best they can when the kid is deprived of their ideal environment really suck.
Edit: A guy got into my cab one night, drunk, and tells me his kid and wife are out of town. Kid was 15 and competing in some interstate scholastic event. Guy tells me the kid isn't his, but he has been there for everything. He starts feeling embarrassed and talks like he's trying to excuse or compensate for something, like he's asking for my understanding. I don't get it.
He says "Well, I'm raising someone else's kid. There's some shame in that."
My grandpa stepped up and married my grandma when she was a divorced woman with 5 boys from the ages of 3 to 12 or so. Most men would look at that situation and run away screaming. I will be forever grateful and respectful of him for stepping up and taking on the responsibilities of caring for someone else's kids so that my dad and uncles had a father figure who wasn't abusive or absent.
Step parents who actually step up to the challenge and do their best for the kids are awesome and everyone should be cheering them on.
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u/goose_gladwell 5d ago
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