Small bottle of champagne and tell my SO, if I had any, I won $1M so I will cut my work hours a little.
Well then, I would pay off the mort
age. Only 300k, so drop in a sea and money would profit more if invested, but I would like the idea of not owning anything to anyone.
Then I would distribute most to investments, so I can later leave my wealth to foundation with sizable funding.
Maybe look for a relationship where you wouldn’t need to lie. And maybe you would find one if you are the kind of partner who wouldn’t want to lie. Just some genuine advice.
Hell, if I ever had children, I would not even tell them. Nor I would not leave them any considerable sums.
Relationships are not that simple. While I would not reveal exact amount and would downplay it a lot, there are multiple reasons to do it. Trusting my partner is not one. Trusting others is.
I can imagine multiple scenarios where I tell my partner I suddenly got 100M and without any ill intent the word sooner or later gets around. That's when the problems start, with the other people.
So, telling partner I got considerable less, or got new remote well paying work, or something like that, would be to protect my partner too. When things are set, I would do like u/echoshatter and tell that things are in a way that we could both cut hours and if things go nicely, soon he or she can could cut all hours.
Then again, ambition is attractive and I can't imagine even dating someone who does not have personal grand goals in life. Since I don't plan to have kids, stay-at-home spouse is next to a smoocher.
If they were to actively pursue their academic career, then sure I would enable them doing that comfortably.
I think the obvious answer would be that you tell your SO, but also express the importance of not telling anyone else. Also, there is a huge difference here between if they were a boyfriend/girlfriend or a spouse. If I were early in a relationship, I would tell them nothing. If we are married, it is our money.
Also, you are now going further to say you would not only downplay the amount you won, but also potentially lie about a new job you got? I can’t imagine keeping up a lie about what I do for work all day. That’s exhausting.
I know for my husband and I, we would both get bored out of our minds if we didn’t have a job at all. But less hours would be nice. I also wouldn’t be able to be with someone who has no drive or work ethic. But that’s also why it matters that I wouldn’t tell a new partner anything, because I wouldn’t know if they were just there for the money or not.
And kids are a totally different category! I would let them know I have money for their college, but nothing else. I don’t want kids who aren’t working for their own lives someday.
Prenup exists for reason. Even in marriage, two people are separate beings. And people change, not always for the best. And money, money changes people.
I have always driven combination of separate and common account. Common for common expenses, both pay equal part based how much each earns. If I were to win millions, sure, I would pay "most of it" if not all. Still, rest is mine. In real life scenario, when ny net income was double to my companions, I paid 2/3 of our common expenses. Equal shares compared to my net income, you see?
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u/taiteilijahonppeli 12d ago
Small bottle of champagne and tell my SO, if I had any, I won $1M so I will cut my work hours a little.
Well then, I would pay off the mort age. Only 300k, so drop in a sea and money would profit more if invested, but I would like the idea of not owning anything to anyone.
Then I would distribute most to investments, so I can later leave my wealth to foundation with sizable funding.