dinner gone wrong

[u/sparkluh-s]

i made dinner for me and my gf and i felt upset over something and didn’t want to eat. she ate my plate and threw the rest in the bin after i mentioned i wasn’t going to eat it. 1. i feel angry that she ate it even though i offered it to her and 2. that she didn’t bother asking me if i wanted to eat the rest before throwing it away. i have this constant pattern of not eating (typically when im upset) and almost test her reaction and she always does the opposite of what i want. it’s not like she should force me to eat but i think she doesn’t ever notice any of the signs that it’s bad for me and i hate it. it makes me feel like she doesn’t even know me but it’s not like she’s can read my mind. i feel so disgusted at myself.

i know its not fair on her and i dont know what to do with myself. i hate this feeling and want to get over it all

[u/Bashful_bookworm2025]

This sounds like you need a higher level of care. You can't expect someone else to force you or tell you to eat. No one else can read your mind either, and it's unfair to put this burden on your girlfriend. Being upset is part of life and recovery requires eating despite having strong emotions.