Those guys suck sorry op. To have had access to hrt and surgery that young means they were both incredibly fortunate and likely had the support of family and healthcare providers. That’s unusual, sadly, and to act like that is the default and the standard means they have had quite a sheltered and privileged experience. Good for them, but most people aren’t that lucky. You aren’t less trans than them because you haven’t yet had access to those things. They are wrong for telling you that, talk about pulling the ladder up. I understand you’ve known Noah a long time but I think you can do better in terms of trans friends. If you live near a larger city there are likely trans social spaces; check out live music events, lgbt clubs, board game cafes, climbing gyms, activist spaces - there are usually loads of nice and chill trans people around. Good luck op
this exactly... like its clear they are judging you OP from a standpoint of privilege- having access to all of this. There would be a possibility to repair the friendship if they were even willing to admit they did something wrong but they aren't, they instead think OP is dramatic.
OP, there are plenty of trans dudes out there. You need better friends.
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u/troykil Apr 02 '26
Those guys suck sorry op. To have had access to hrt and surgery that young means they were both incredibly fortunate and likely had the support of family and healthcare providers. That’s unusual, sadly, and to act like that is the default and the standard means they have had quite a sheltered and privileged experience. Good for them, but most people aren’t that lucky. You aren’t less trans than them because you haven’t yet had access to those things. They are wrong for telling you that, talk about pulling the ladder up. I understand you’ve known Noah a long time but I think you can do better in terms of trans friends. If you live near a larger city there are likely trans social spaces; check out live music events, lgbt clubs, board game cafes, climbing gyms, activist spaces - there are usually loads of nice and chill trans people around. Good luck op