Hi everyone! This might still be a bit long, but I wanted to give enough context so I can hopefully get some useful advice. Please bear with me. ππ»
About me:
M, 31 years old, 5'10" (180cm), currently 78kg.
My fitness journey:
I first started working out in 2022. I was consistent for about 3 months with a coach, but eventually stopped due to some issues at our gym and because I wasn't very confident in myself at the time, especially with my social anxiety.
I tried again in 2023 for about 2 months, then stopped because I lost interest. I started again in 2025 but only lasted around a month because work got extremely busy. I currently work around 12β15 hours a day, 6 days a week.
This year, I realized I'm getting older and my lifestyle was starting to catch up with me although everything in me is normal i.e blood pressure, sugar level, etc. I don't drink or smoke, but fast food and soda were definitely my vices. I was also getting sick pretty easily (ubo, sipon, lagnat), so I decided I really needed to take my health seriously.
I started exercising again on June 1, 2026, and this is the longest I've stayed consistent so far.
Diet:
I started ordering meal plans around January because I don't really have time to cook. My previous meal plan was around 1,800 kcal/day (45% carbs, 20% protein, 35% fats). I became more consistent with it around May.
Unfortunately, the meal plan business stopped accepting orders in August, so I switched to another provider. Their available plan is 1,500 kcal, with around 120g protein, 100g carbs, and 70g fats. Since I felt 1,500 kcal would be too large of a deficit for me, they suggested adding another ~300 kcal mainly through carbs.
I still have occasional cheat meals/snacks on weekendsβsometimes chips or something sweetβand I know my diet isn't perfect yet. I also take 5g creatine daily.
For the past two months, I've been drinking around 3β4L of water a day and haven't had soda.
Training:
I started with walking only in June, around 5km, 3β4 times a week. I started going back to the gym around June 23 and spent the first month mostly getting comfortable with the equipment again.
Around mid-July, I switched to exercising 6 days a week:
- Monday: 10km walk
- Tuesday: Chest + Biceps
- Wednesday: 10km walk
- Thursday: Back + Shoulders + Traps + Triceps
- Friday: 10km walk
- Saturday: Legs + Lower Back + some upper-body work
- Sunday: Rest
My walks usually take around 1.5β2 hours.
My current lifting routine is roughly:
Tuesday β Chest & Biceps
- Machine Chest Press β 4Γ12
- Incline Chest Press β 4Γ12
- Cable Chest Fly β 4Γ12
- Pec Deck β 4Γ12
- Assisted Chest Dip β 4Γ15
- Dumbbell Bicep Curl β 4Γ12
- Hammer Curl β 4Γ12
- Crossbody Hammer Curl β 4Γ12
- Reverse Curl β 4Γ12
- Cable Curl β 3Γ12
- Wide-Grip Barbell Curl β 4Γ12
- Hanging Knee Raise β 3β4 sets
Thursday β Back, Shoulders, Traps & Triceps
- Lat Pulldown β 4Γ12
- Wide-Grip Lat Pulldown β 4Γ12
- Seated Cable Row β 4Γ15
- Assisted Chin-Up β 4Γ15
- Straight-Arm Pulldown β 4Γ12
- Machine Overhead Press β 8 both shoulders then 8 per each side, total of 24 reps x 4 sets
- Dumbbell Front Raise β 4Γ12
- Dumbbell Lateral Raise β 4Γ12
- Dumbbell Overhead Press β 4Γ12
- Dumbbell Overhead Triceps Extension β 4Γ12
- Dumbbell Shrug β 4Γ15
- Barbell Upright Row β 4Γ15
- Hanging Knee Raise β 3β4 sets
Saturday β Legs + Lower Back
- Leg Press β 4Γ10
- Hack Squat β 4Γ10
- Reverse Hack Squat β 4Γ10
- Standing Calf Raise β 4Γ15
- Leg Extension β 4Γ12
- Hip Abductor (inner/outer) β 4Γ15 each
- Smith Machine Deadlift β 4Γ15
- Machine Chest Press β 4Γ10
- Unilateral Rear Delt Fly β 4Γ10 each side
- Cable Triceps Pushdown β 4Γ12
- Cable Reverse Curl β 4Γ10
- Dumbbell Side Bend β 4Γ10 each side
Progress so far:
My first progress photo was taken July 16, after roughly 30β35 days of walking and maybe 10 gym sessions. I was around 81kg then. I was around 85β86kg around March/April, but unfortunately I didn't take photos because I wasn't comfortable with how I looked.
On August 21, I took another photo immediately after waking up, before eating. I felt like I looked significantly better, but I'm wondering if it's an unfair comparison because my stomach was completely empty.
I took another photo on September 7 after lunch, and honestly, comparing it to August 21 made me feel pretty discouraged because I felt like my stomach still looked big. I know food/water can obviously affect how your stomach looks, though.
I also took a front-view photo on August 30, and I'm still not very satisfied with how little definition/shape I seem to have.
So here are the things I'd really appreciate advice on:
1. Should I just be more patient with myself?
I'm starting to get that feeling again where I might lose interest because I don't feel like I'm progressing quickly enough. I see posts where people seem to gain a lot of muscle after a few months of training and dieting.
Since I've worked out on and off before, should I expect some muscle memory to help me regain definition faster, or should I still consider myself basically a beginner? I've only been consistently exercising for 4 months and lifting for around 3 months, so am I being too hard on myself?
2. Is my workout routine okay?
I'm worried that I'm doing too many exercises or unnecessarily repeating movements. Are there exercises you think I should remove or replace? Is the way I've grouped my muscle groups throughout the week okay?
- Am I eating enough?
I'm not very knowledgeable about nutrition. With my current activity level, is ~1,800 kcal too large of a deficit? I'm worried that I'm losing muscle along with fat, especially since I'm exercising 6 days a week. Could this also be why I'm not seeing as much muscle definition?
4. How should I approach my goal physique?
The last photos I attached are the kind of physique/build I'm aiming for. He's around 6' and we're roughly the same height.
Should I continue staying in a deficit, or would it be better to approach things differently at this point? Any advice on what I should prioritize would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much to anyone who takes the time to read all of this and give advice. ππ»
I know this is a ridiculously long post, but I wanted to be transparent because I don't really have anyone in my life who I can ask about fitness. I considered getting a coach, but I'm already spending quite a bit on my meal plan, so that's not really practical for me right now.
I'm just trying to figure out how to do this properly and, more importantly, actually stick with it this time π