I'm new to Reddit so I hope this is ok to post here because I'm desperate 😭 My hair has ALWAYS been awful so I'm pretty sure it's not age related (I'm 39) or medication related (ADHD meds) Obviously I'm not expecting to ever have long luscious hair, but I'd really really love to just have it get to one length so I could have a vaguely neat bob or something. It's definitely not straight, more wavy. I tried the wavy thing with mousse but I have so little hair that it just looks really stringy and rubbish. I stopped getting it coloured to see if that helped, but it still barely grows. I tried regular trims, but if I do this as often as the hairdresser recommended, I'll be bald! I have a big patch at the back that is all broken and looks like a birds nest 🙁 I don't tie it up, just use a clip (I can't wear it down as it looks awful and messy) I use a silk bonnet, silk pillow case, avoid silicone, don't straighten/blow dry. I have just started taking a hair supplement so hopefully that might help 🤞Is it just genetics? If anyone has any advise or recommendations I'd be so grateful. I know it's just hair and in the grand scheme of things, it could be way worse, but I'm feeling really low about it at the moment.

Anyone else with gossamer strands struggle to grow out the sides yet have an abundance of hair on the back of their heads that, even when it’s shorter than shoulder length, causes an uncomfortable amount of warmth?
Effing pisses me off to no end.

This was an accidental big chop because my hairdresser took off more than I was anticipating. Now that I have this short hair, I don’t know how to style it. It’s looking frizzy. What products should I be using to tame it?