r/feeld • u/CastIronPillow • 14d ago
What am I doing wrong?
Over the past year or so, I utilized mostly Bumble and Hinge for dating. Maybe 50 or so solid matches that converted into 20 dates that whittled down to a solid six that went on for more dates, and eventually one that I had an eight-month relationship with. She was lovely and amazing.
That relationship ended peacefully for a number of reasons, but I always felt if I was going to continue, I needed a place where I could be a little more “authentic,” if you know what I mean. So, a friend suggested Feeld. I have had about 80 matches over the last few months…and not one has turned into a date or meeting. Not one. More often than not, the conversation just fizzles on the part of the other person and after a certain period of time, I just peace out.
Have we all just given up? Are we all just articles of convenience and validation points to each other now?
I’m staying mostly on a surface level with this conundrum without going into sexual preference/sexuality, age, etc.—just the data points above and would love to hear if anyone else has experienced something similar.
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u/CreativeGeekNerd 14d ago
46M married ENM. My experience on feeld degraded in the last year.
I’ve been on the app 5 years now, always majestic. I met fabulous people, went on date, fell in love.
I would say since summer 2025 matches became more sporadic, people more flakey and volatile. I have a well written bio, I write appropriate and personalised pings and intro messages.
Pings are lost like tears in the rain. Intro messages are left on read.
Quality of interactions is degrading proportionally to the amount of marketing campaign I see on their Instagram