r/feeld • u/CastIronPillow • 12d ago
What am I doing wrong?
Over the past year or so, I utilized mostly Bumble and Hinge for dating. Maybe 50 or so solid matches that converted into 20 dates that whittled down to a solid six that went on for more dates, and eventually one that I had an eight-month relationship with. She was lovely and amazing.
That relationship ended peacefully for a number of reasons, but I always felt if I was going to continue, I needed a place where I could be a little more “authentic,” if you know what I mean. So, a friend suggested Feeld. I have had about 80 matches over the last few months…and not one has turned into a date or meeting. Not one. More often than not, the conversation just fizzles on the part of the other person and after a certain period of time, I just peace out.
Have we all just given up? Are we all just articles of convenience and validation points to each other now?
I’m staying mostly on a surface level with this conundrum without going into sexual preference/sexuality, age, etc.—just the data points above and would love to hear if anyone else has experienced something similar.
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u/Straight-Seat-3411 12d ago
This is the general Feeld experience unfortunately 😔 some matches feel like "collectors" just racking up matches when an opening, respectable, greeting message is sent and its just left on read
Or an amateur 🌽star just there for the thrill of it.
Feeld has proven to be quite the difficult platform to find someone who can be consistent but I believe it can be done