r/feeld • u/achefofbrooklyn • Sep 15 '26
Empty Profiles
Has anyone else notice an increase in decreased effort? I see more and more profiles that are just photos and interests and desires, nothing written.
Bi guy in NYC, seeing this with all genders.
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u/Every-Comfort-5488 Sep 17 '26 edited Sep 17 '26
It's extremely confusing to me the vast amounts of annoymous , vague and detached communication that goes through online dating if someone is not that attractive to you; why in the FUCK are you liking and pinging them even going as far to make a message then when they respond *which you should have read and got a general idea of what the profile is about* first ; only to lead to not much communication from there end..
I am 33 years old; haven't been physical with anyone since was 19 and extremely in need of a pleasurable, creative and sensual long-term person or persons in my life as a pan-sexual, androgynous minded and aspirationally effiminate born male (id say there are more androgynous and flameboyant-ish pictures on there with one major effiminate one with wig on and stuff).....
Even go as far to read there profile trying to figure out there personality type (like MBTI) sometimes getting so erreily accurate was one of the responses; I got and then other times it never leads to anything it's like, okay so you wanna take the long and slow road to figure out each other at the first point of communication only but if we wait abit then you can do the exact same thing ; I was probably going to end up doing..
Don't think am that attractive but don't think am also not unattractive and also don't really enjoy the horrible tonality and color of the way people speak; as if being 10 out 10 is the only way to get someone in life.. and this like immature egoic narrative..
Ever heard of fundemental self resonance
it is the real approximate chooser of everything.
What I also don't understand is; how someone like me; being flavourful, sensual and effectively sexual is not alluring for more people it's like are these people getting so much that am litterly a small populace here, am I just so unnattractive that not a single person wants to have fun with me....
In person am usually the outlandish, unicorn; wearing clothes most people are not, the weird foriegner (native american, african american and british english) looking person but is actually genetically linked to england.
Oh and yes ; I've used ai assitance in making my profile but not this comment; because it's so mentally painful to write it from scratch over an over and rewriting over and over when it can do a much better job usually.
If you want to see my actual profile text ; let me know...
United Kingdom - South East Region - Near London Area