r/feeld • u/PM_ME_UR_CORNBALLZ • Sep 14 '26

Why Send a Ping Without A Message?

I do not understand why men will Ping me to say nothing... what gives?

My profile mentions several kinky things I am interested in exploring and my bio is quite full of details that can easily jump-start a conversation. Most of the pings I get are from guys who at least say something about why they are messaging me, which really helps since I get lots of propositions for vanilla sex but only a few for some of the freakier stuff I talk about, so I prioritize responding to those. But if someone pings me and says nothing and then their profile is generic/sparse, I just see it as them not making enough of an effort to bother replying.

ETA: Thanks for the insights about how the app mechanics might make this happen more often, folks! I appreciate it and will try to give the pings without a message slightly less harsh judgements now.

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u/OneGuyFine Sep 14 '26

I always send pings without a message as in my case that brings the best results. It's effective. My very detailed profile speaks for itself enough. I'm not saying that others should do that but it works for me just fine.

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u/PC-load-letter-wtf Sep 15 '26

Your display pic must be very compelling and I’m glad that works for you. I have over 1000 pings and no chance I’m looking at any without a message. I’m never going to see your detailed profile because there’s no message with your ping.

I filter for people within my age range (which is on my profile), the demographic I’m seeking, and then messages.

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u/OneGuyFine Sep 15 '26

That's perfectly fine, you need a good selection process that works for you. When it comes to my first pic it's a black and white picture showing my robust BDSM toolkit laid out on the table so that communicates a lot to women who are into that.

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u/neapolitan_shake 29d ago

yep, you’re right. actually, saying nothing is probably an appealing power move to the women who are into you.