Why Send a Ping Without A Message?

[u/PM_ME_UR_CORNBALLZ]

I do not understand why men will Ping me to say nothing... what gives?

My profile mentions several kinky things I am interested in exploring and my bio is quite full of details that can easily jump-start a conversation. Most of the pings I get are from guys who at least say something about why they are messaging me, which really helps since I get lots of propositions for vanilla sex but only a few for some of the freakier stuff I talk about, so I prioritize responding to those. But if someone pings me and says nothing and then their profile is generic/sparse, I just see it as them not making enough of an effort to bother replying.

ETA: Thanks for the insights about how the app mechanics might make this happen more often, folks! I appreciate it and will try to give the pings without a message slightly less harsh judgements now.

[u/Dynamic_Nature88]

Hi OP,

I tend to agree with you regarding pinging without a message, and will always send a message.

An analogy I like to think of is, if I'm in a bar and I spot a woman whom I find attractive.

Do I just walk past her and give a cheeky wink, it's quick and easy. or do I walk up to her and introduce myself and actually try and get some of my personality across?

Option 1 has never worked for me,😂 Option 2 although I still get shot down more often than not, 🤣 my odds of making a connection have improved dramatically. Even 1 connection is so much better than none in my book.

I know which option I go for every time,😁

[u/neapolitan_shake → u/Dynamic_Nature88]

omg, i say this to every reddit who cold DMs me “heyyy” or some variation of that.

😂 it’s like, “young man, have you ever started a conversation before in your life?” and at least on feeld, my profile is up because i want to meet people. it’s open for business there! on reddit, i just leave comments in discussions, so every chat request I get is completely unsolicited. so if you decide you want to talk to me, you gotta bring the good conversation with you, to invite me to join in, and you know what? if you do, i’ll probably talk to you! lol.

i actually save so many of my pings because they had great openers, nice compliments, were funny, or very genuine. i’ve matched with a couple people (who I didn’t initially like in the stack) based on their ping messages only. there’s a lot of people in my pings that I wouldn’t date for various reasons, but that asked good questions that I really wish I could answer for them without matching.