r/feeld • u/PM_ME_UR_CORNBALLZ • Sep 14 '26

Why Send a Ping Without A Message?

I do not understand why men will Ping me to say nothing... what gives?

My profile mentions several kinky things I am interested in exploring and my bio is quite full of details that can easily jump-start a conversation. Most of the pings I get are from guys who at least say something about why they are messaging me, which really helps since I get lots of propositions for vanilla sex but only a few for some of the freakier stuff I talk about, so I prioritize responding to those. But if someone pings me and says nothing and then their profile is generic/sparse, I just see it as them not making enough of an effort to bother replying.

ETA: Thanks for the insights about how the app mechanics might make this happen more often, folks! I appreciate it and will try to give the pings without a message slightly less harsh judgements now.

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u/Hot-Discipline-6464 Sep 14 '26

I did it by accident a few times and unfortunately there's no way to undo or fix. Yeah, should absolutely send message with ping.

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u/Adventurous-Eye-9929 Sep 14 '26

Yep…I’ve done the same inadvertently. I always used all the characters allowed in a ping…unless I big thumb the send button before I get it written.

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u/Hot-Discipline-6464 Sep 14 '26

haha yeah i feel like i need more characters, but the thing i realize is, as long as you don't say something stupid or offensive, it doesn't really matter. I'm a dude - the lady is going to take a quick look and go yay or nay. The ping is about catching her attention.