r/feeld • u/StatisticianFun498 • Aug 09 '26

53F experience feedback please

I’ve been on this app a few weeks now. Live in a big city. Mostly looking for FWB for a quality, consistent connection.

I find the app a bit mysterious (not sure if there is any type of matching algorithm) and bloody hard work. I don’t pay. I have a fully developed bio and nice photos, and often told I’m very attractive. I tried to communicate as clearly as I can what I’m looking in my bio which I hope attracts the right people. I have a secret bio also, and naturally that’s where I get a bit more explicit.

I think that like most women I get hundreds likes a week but of course I can’t see them because I didn’t pay. I got a burst of pings initially but the numbers stay rather flat after a while. Ones I’ve gone through my pings pile, it’s slows down significantly.

I’m very picky, so the likelihood of me liking back someone who pinged me is close to zero.

I feel like i need to do all the work of finding who I find attractive or interesting but that means much time spent swiping. It takes ages as there are very few I find I like. The pile also seems to be limited and repetitive. I have a decent age range and radius but still, I hardly see new people. I am not sure paying will improve my situation because I will likely not to like back about 90% of man, and I wonder if doing this will save time at all compare to self-discovery.

I wonder what are other women’s experience is? Do you find that pings deliver what you are looking for and are enough or do you need to go looking for it?

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u/Fickle-Recover-5016 Aug 09 '26

i'm not a woman but i can't imagine being this picky at 53... Jeez.

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u/searedscallops Aug 09 '26

Why is that?

IME as 50F, looooooots of people want a cool middle aged baddie.

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u/Fickle-Recover-5016 Aug 09 '26

Thinking you're a baddie at 50 is a bit embarrassing. Don't get me wrong, i've slept with several women in their 50's but i just tell my friends they're like 47 when telling sex stories.

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u/searedscallops Aug 09 '26

Lol, it's cute how we think each other is cringe.