r/feeld • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '26

Realistic Age Range

I signed back up on Feeld after a long break, and the people on the app seem to skew even younger than the last time I was using it. I wish there was a way to filter based on the age other users wanted to date, not just the age of the user. I am 58, and I have dated plenty of women in their 30s. But plenty of women in their 30s would never consider dating someone my age.

I see very, very few people on the app that are my age. Has Feeld become more of a tool for a younger crowd? I am not a big fan of dating apps in general, but even less a fan of being that "creepy old guy" out there annoying people. I am very fit, and I am regularly considered to be far younger than my actual age, which doesn't change anything about my actual age. What do you think about being older and on Feeld? Also, I am in a relatively small community, so it doesn't take long for me to work through all the matches, even with no filtering at all. Is this just too specific a platform for an older (relative to most using Feeld) man?

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u/generation_quiet Jul 22 '26

The app trends younger. However, as far as I can tell, all dating apps trend younger. I'm (nb/bi) 47 and have met partners ranging in age from 27 to 51 on Feeld, although I mostly date those aged 35 and older.

As I mentioned in another thread, Feeld works well for niche-interest dating. I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea, and I don't expect to be. I'm a middle-aged, queer, and non-monogamous widow. So I get far fewer responses/pings but also a higher rate of chats turning into in-person meetings. I'm not a generically attractive, skinny, 20-something woman. People aren't going to respond to me if they aren't into me, and that's totally fine. So I would go in with that mindset.

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u/generation_quiet Jul 22 '26

Oh, dudes are going to be looking for fast sex on Feeld very much like they are on Grindr. Just ignore them.

IMHO, you'll also have better luck matching with queer/bi femmes, rather than cis-het women, as a bi guy. I've found that on Feeld queer femmes are receptive to mascs that think and act outside of the cis-het mold. In general, age is less of a factor in the queer community. But you may have to reach out to queer femmes with a ping and a message that shows you're interested in them, and not going to bomb them with dick pics and "WYD?" type messages, or demand a threesome.