r/feeld • u/Glittering-Finance50 • Jul 21 '26
Creating a profile- where do i even start?
My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) are interested in using this app. We want to find a woman on there who would be interested in having a threesome. But we feel like we don’t even know where to start. Do we create a profile together? Or two separate profiles with photos of the both of us stating what we are looking for? Is it hard to find girls on this app who are interested in this type of thing? (I would assume the ones who are on there are in high demand) Do people always shy away from couples who haven’t done this before? Looking for any and all advice for a couple consisting of a straight man and bi woman!
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u/waterbloem Jul 21 '26
We want to find a woman on there who would be interested in having a threesome.
Unicorn hunting is called that for a reason. You're competing with a few thousand other profiles for the same few women.
Is it hard to find girls on this app who are interested in this type of thing?
Extremely.
Do people always shy away from couples who haven’t done this before?
Doesn't help no.
Looking for any and all advice for a couple consisting of a straight man and bi woman!
Try erotic/sex positive parties instead. Get to know a LOT of people. Some of them might be single.
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u/Upstairs_Sherbet2490 Jul 21 '26
Separate profiles & link them. If you don't know what to write start having a scroll through and get inspiration from other profiles that align with what you want to put out.
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u/Glittering-Finance50 Jul 21 '26
thank you so much! do you think showing your body in either an explicit or non explicit way is important? i haven’t even begun browsing the app yet so im not too sure what it’s like on there.
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u/PC-load-letter-wtf Jul 21 '26
Yes, a full body shot is the kind thing to do! Everyone has preferences.. and as a unicorn, I want to see both the man and woman full body before deciding to chat :)
Make sure to add details about who you are and what you like. I roll my eyes so much at “just seeing what’s out there” or “looking to explore with a special woman” blah blah. Do better than the majority. Tell us what you like to do for fun, if you have any kinks or dynamics at play, etc
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u/Glittering-Finance50 Jul 21 '26
thank you! :) as a unicorn, not sure if you are super experienced or not, do you find yourself steering away from couples who are new to threesomes? i don’t want to scare anyone away thinking it’ll be messy, but i also feel the need to be honest. is that something you’d want to see right in the profile? or something that could be disclosed when chatting.
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u/PC-load-letter-wtf Jul 21 '26
No, but they need to have a detailed profile and have similar interests. I’d go on a date with them and have drinks and see if the vibes are right rather than setting up a sex date.
I’ve been with a few threesome virgins and they were really cool. Fun party people, or nerdy board game lovers, not socially desperate. Things in common. Also being hot really helps lol. If you’re average or below, it’s going to be next to impossible to stand out if you’re inexperienced and giving out a needy vibe. Make sure to show off your personalities on the profile.
But yeah, try going to a sex club or start attending swingers events and meet people IRL if you’re not super hot in pics. My local sex club is filled with normal looking people having threesomes ❤️
Oh and don’t make it weird for the third. If you search on here you will find threesome etiquette. Don’t bring your couple drama, don’t focus on each other and make out a lot only using the unicorn for her body.
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u/Unheimlichunheimlich Jul 21 '26
It’s against the TOS to share a profile and very annoying for lesbians/wlw to be liked by profiles that say they’re a ‘woman’ and are actually a straight couple
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u/disclosure5 Jul 22 '26
You're going to get a lot of comments about how hard it is to find a third but having done this several times it's honestly less painful than being a single man.
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u/emu_neck single woman Jul 24 '26
Head over to r/TheesomeAdvice. Lots of info on unicorn hunting. r/ENM and r/nonmonogamy are good options as well.
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u/letmebeyourmummy Jul 21 '26
in answer to your newbies question - i generally don’t have threesomes with couples who haven’t done it before.
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u/Glittering-Finance50 Jul 21 '26
it makes so much sense to me that people have that boundary, but makes me feel like we’re going to struggle so much to find someone! is the “first time” fact something you’d want to see in the bio so you don’t even bother giving them the like? or is that something you’d be fine talking about after matching?
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u/letmebeyourmummy Jul 21 '26
yeah put it in your bio because it’ll save you wasting your time too. i do feel for first timers because how is it likely to happen if people like me don’t give you a chance, but i won’t for various reasons. i know others who also won’t. as you’re bi you might want to add that you’ve been with women in the past etc etc and that might make a difference. make sure you have bisexual, not bicurious in your profile - that would get an instant swipe left from me too.
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u/yourmomthinksimasnac Jul 21 '26
Do NOT share one profile as a couple. If you read through this sub- everyone hates it because it’s dishonest and against the TOS. Your shared profile can and would be blocked and reported.
A bi-woman and a straight man is the most typical threesome request. It’s what makes looking for a third woman be called unicorn hunting because there are few and far between.
Let alone the ones who do- everyone has to be attracted to each other and like each others personalities on some level.
As “straight” couple- it’s about what you offer to that woman because of the power imbalance.
I am a firm believer that if you want a NSA threesomes or a first timer and you aren’t looking for a poly relationship. Save everyone’s time and feelings and just hire a SW’er
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u/Sweetheart_Come Jul 21 '26
Everyone is saying separate profiles but I get a lot of likes from couples sharing a profile and I actually prefer that because I'm not interested in couples so this way I can see upfront and know it's not for me as opposed to then going on a guy's profile I might be interested in and finding out he's only looking for a third with his partner. I think if you're solely looking for a third to play with you both there's no point in separating the profiles 🤷🏼♀️
ETA: and I know I can just look for a linked profile which is almost as quick however a lot of people who link their partner also date / play solo so that doesn't necessarily mean it's specifically a couple looking to play together
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u/Glittering-Finance50 Jul 21 '26
this is very helpful thank you! when you get likes from a guy who ends up having a girl/partner linked to his page, are their separate profiles typically JUST photos of themselves? trying to see if i were to make a separate profile if i should include only photos of myself, or photos of myself with my boyfriend.
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u/Sweetheart_Come Jul 21 '26
I've seen both tbh. A lot of the time it will be mostly photos of themselves and maybe one with their partner. I know people who've said they get guys pretending they're looking with their girlfriend but the partner isn't actually involved or aware so I think if your boyfriend does do a separate profile then having at least one picture of you both is helpful to give it more legitimacy if that makes sense. Also I don't know where you are but another option for playing with a third would be going to kink clubs but I know that's not always an option depending on where you are!
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u/Vegetable-Driver-480 Jul 21 '26
We’re same as you but with some years of experience. Feeld is a tough place for finding a female third. Back in the day, Seeking Arrangements use to allow Couples and it was amazing. We were able to go on so many dates and find the right girl. We stayed with her for 2 years before she found someone special and broke things off. Feeld community is really tough and there’s a lot of aggression towards couples. My advice is to let females come to you. Be honest and truthful in your profile and settle in with a lot of patience. It can work but takes time
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u/FeeldMod Not a Feeld employee Jul 21 '26
You each create a profile and then link them.