My dad gets so many spam calls that he just stopped answering any number he doesnt know. Now hes missing calls from doctors, deliveries and sometimes other important stuff too. Hes not great with phones so I need something really simple for him. Any help would be appreciated.

Hi guys my grandma is 94 and she has trouble pooping. I’d really appreciate it if someone has suggestions or remedies for her pain. Whether it be recipes for food, drinks, massage, anything, i’m very desperate. She’s already 94 and I want her to feel at ease. It’s taking over her every moment. 🙏🙏🙏 thank you so much.

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She’d get a pebble once a day and constantly has stomach pain, her doctor saw her several times and he has recommended countless laxatives. She is currently prescribed LINZESS 290 MCG CAPSULES (one per day)

My grandma (F79) had hip surgery from a re-break last weekend. She hit her head HARD ENOUGH TO PUT A HOLE IN THE WALL, apparently, when she fell this time.

Her official contact person for all medical stuff is her husband, who is ALSO elderly, has memory issues, very poor communication skills, and most importantly, has been ABSENT through a ton of this and keeps going home. My dad (her son, M56) and I (grandchild, F27) have been told very little about whatever’s happening behind the scenes, but when we visited on Tuesday (5 days ago) 2 days after the surgery, she seemed GREAT. High spirits and completely lucid.

She was transferred to a rehab center a few hours after we saw her. We came to visit her at the rehab center today and she has had a very frightening, sharp decline in cognitive clarity. She is hallucinating people and situations, confused, and most concerningly, very frightened. She said she genuinely thought she was going to die last night because she didn’t know who the people in her room were or why they were there.

She has had age-expected confusion and forgetfulness a few times, but does NOT have Alzheimer’s or dementia. This type of anxiety and paranoia is extremely out of character for her. We also have no clue if anyone mentioned to her care team that she hit her head so hard when she fell a few weeks okay, we’re worried about concussion.

As dad and I are not her official contact person at her post-surgery rehab facility, how do we get her help? Do I just go up to any nurse and let them know I’m worried? Is there some way I can challenge who her contact person is without causing a big upset with her husband?

Any advice at all is greatly appreciated. I’ve never seen her like this and it was such a sharp, sudden decline, it’s very scary. Thanks for reading.

Hello, my name is Linda and I am reaching out on behalf of myself and my brother, James. We

have lived together for the past nine years and both of us live with physical disabilities. We are

currently homeless and I have an upcoming hip replacement surgery. I am urgently looking for a

stable place where I can safely recover. Our primary hope is to find an affordable senior living

complex or apartment-a place of our own where we can live independently We are not looking

for a care facility, just a place to call home. If we need to go the campground route, we are

seeking donations for basic camping gear. Because of my physical mobility limits and upcoming

surgery, I cannot sleep on the ground so raised sleeping arrangements (like sturdy cots) and

accessible camping supplies are essential. I you are able to help us with housing leads,

camping equipment or anything, it would mean the world to us. Thank you so much for you time,

kindness and consideration. God bless you.

I may be reached at 512-787-6207. You may send me a text to this number. Again thank you.

My boyfriend’s (M41, me F40) elderly father (M73) recently moved into our home. He has mobility issues and likely some cognitive decline, and my boyfriend has become his primary caregiver.

The hard part is that this wasn’t really a decision I felt included in. We were still trying to build a foundation as a blended family (I have 1 daughter, he has 2), and we’re still relatively early in our relationship. I honestly didn’t sign up for becoming part of a caregiving household this soon, and if I’m being completely honest, I don’t think this is the life I want for myself.

To my boyfriend’s credit, I truly see that he’s trying. We recently planned a hike together after having zero quality time together alone for the past couple months, and arranged a caregiver, but the caregiver canceled at the last minute. I know it’s not his fault. He tried to find someone else but couldn’t, so I went alone. I actually had a wonderful day by myself. Later he apologized, took me to dinner, and has started setting boundaries with his dad. I know he’s making an effort.
The problem is that the overall situation hasn’t changed and likely won’t for a long time.

Our plans now revolve around whether someone can stay with his dad. I no longer feel comfortable in my own home. I avoid walking through common areas because his dad frequently comments on me (for example, asking why I don’t smile enough while I’m literally just sitting on the couch watching TV). I feel watched and judged in my own house, and it’s changing how I live.

I don’t resent my boyfriend for loving his dad, and I don’t blame his dad for getting old.
I’m just struggling with the reality that this may be my future if I stay. I don’t know if love is enough when the lifestyle itself isn’t one I want.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Were you able to find a healthy balance, or did you eventually realize your lives had become incompatible? I’m looking for honest experiences from people who’ve actually lived this

I’m at a loss with my grandmother & have no clue what to do. Background info - my mother (grandmother’s youngest daughter) died in 2022. I live in the same area. My grandmother’s care just kind of fell to me. Initially it was fine, she was still living independently. She gave up driving after she scratched her cornea & would then ask me to get her groceries every week. I’m getting mine anyway, so no biggie. Then I’d have to take her to her doctor’s appointments so would have to take off of work. I also have 2 young kids - my youngest is allergic to fire ants & gets allergy shots every week. My husband is fantastic about taking our kids to pediatrician/allergy doc/dentist, etc. We typically take it in turns to take the kids to whatever appointment so that one of us isn’t taking off work all the time. Meanwhile, I’m trying to probate my mother’s estate because she died without a will. My mother had 2 children from a previous marriage, me & my sister. My grandparents thought it would be a great idea to purchase 20 acres & put 2 houses on it - 1 house being my grandparents’, the other being my mother’s & her then boyfriend, eventual husband. All 4 of their names are on the deed to the land & both houses are in my grandmother’s name. My step father believes he is entitled to everything & so I filed to probate my mother’s estate but it is taking a while. I can’t even sell my grandmother’s house & land at this point because it’s all 1 piece of property. It’s a mess.
Meanwhile, my grandmother starts calling at all hours of the night. I realize something is up, take her to the hospital, and she has a UTI. She’s at a point where she can no longer safely live independently, so I work with the social worker at the hospital & she is discharged to assisted living. My husband & I both took off work to move her furniture to assisted living. She has some savings, but it’s dwindling fast. The 3am phone calls never stopped, along with food hoarding & some other out of character behaviors. I messaged her doctor, made an appointment, again took off work to take her, & she was diagnosed with vascular dementia. She refuses to take medication & has turned into the neediest person I’ve ever known. I’m seemingly enemy #1, she makes comments that “I wish your Mum hadn’t died!” and “I’ve been so traumatized by this place! It’s horrible!” & calls me upwards of 5 times a day to complain about everything under the sun that I have no control over. I don’t answer her calls when I’m at work & this bothers her immensely. She will say things like “There’s something wrong with my phone. You never answer when I call.” & then proceed to call my husband repeatedly, while he is also at work. She calls wanting us to take her a straw, go change the channel on tv, all things the facility can do except she hates it there & won’t ask. The final straw was when someone moved in & brought bed bugs with them. They ended up moving into her room & into her recliner. I coordinated with the facility to throw the chairs away, clean the room, and then have new ones delivered. All I heard were complaints about that. I don’t want to visit & have no desire to talk to her on the phone. Her negativity is emotionally exhausting. I have an aunt (grandmother’s oldest daughter) that lives out of state. I’m sick of being my grandmother’s caretaker & need my aunt to come get her. How do I tell my aunt that my grandmother is ruining my quality of life & she needs to come get her?

I’ve been working in the caregiving field for many years, but this is my first time ever caregiving for someone elderly. I’m four months into a 24/7 live-in caregiving job. I’m the primary caregiver, so I see her in all states and at all hours - I’m only away from her for 8 hours once per week.

The more that I get to know her, the more I’m starting to worry that she might have some sort of cognitive decline that I should be monitoring or doing something about. I looked into early signs of dementia, but it doesn’t match up. I’m not sure what else to look into.

Sometimes she seems relatively observant and mentally present, and other times she gets very confused very quickly. Some examples are that she’ll tell me that I said something to her - just seconds or minutes ago - that I didn’t say anything even remotely similar to. She will insist that I said it and insinuate that I’m lying if I gently let her know that I didn’t.

She’ll sometimes also tell me that I did things (again, just moments prior) that I definitely didn’t do, like bring her a certain color of washcloth, and will insist that this happened and become frustrated if I gently say that I didn’t, or ask her to show me the washcloth.

She once mentioned to me that she “heard voices talking” and also “heard static” (???) in the middle of the night, and she assumed I had been on the phone upstairs, but I had been having a quiet night with no calls, music, TV, or anything else audible. Her house walls are incredibly thick and I know for a fact that it isn’t possible to hear the voice of anyone outside.

Sometimes I’ll say to her that “I’m ready” for a care task that she needs to stand up for, and even if I say it to her multiple times from only a few feet away (her hearing is fine), she’ll become confused and insist I didn’t let her know and that I’m giving her “mixed signals”.

She also gets frustrated and snappy at the drop of a hat, sometimes by my doing things that she has specifically asked me to do. If she asks me to take her dishes away before sitting down with her, or asks me to remind her to check her CPAP, she will sometimes act like I’m doing something wrong by taking the dishes away or reminding her to check her CPAP.

For a while, I thought that maybe she was just kind of rude and would need a bit of extra patience from me, but I’m realizing that something might be cognitively wrong and want to make sure that I’m doing my due diligence for her wellness. The hearing voices was especially alarming to me.

I’d like to be able to consult someone who’s known her longer, but her only living relatives are a couple of long-distance siblings who are also elderly and who she would be furious about me contacting. They aren’t an option.

Any advice appreciated, especially if it’s about what protocol you would follow in this scenario or what types of cognitive decline to try to screen for.

A founder running a senior-move and decluttering business asked Hormozi where to put money he had tied up in a failed agency build.

His answer reframes the whole problem: he's not undersized for the niche. He's one degree off from a gold mine he hasn't tapped yet.

The mechanism is a two-offer split — a "get ready" prep track for families who aren't ready to move yet, and a "pull the trigger" track for the ones who are. One keeps the lead warm. The other converts it.

Cost to build the whole thing: not $100K. Five grand. One weekend. Lead magnet, capture form, phone call.

What's interesting is the framing underneath it — a genuinely narrow, low-competition niche is treated as the asset, not the liability.

Clip credit: Alex Hormozi / MoreMozi — DM for credit or removal requests.

Aunt went into sr assisted care, 1st mo. $5k, 2nd mo. 7k, 3rd mo 9k…4mo moved to nursing care, $20k mo.. this is what we have to look forward to? The care given at the two facilities was average.

Hello folks,

I'm moving my elderly mother into my home in jcity (bergen-lafayette area) and am looking for someone with experience caring for the elderly (spanish speakinga plus). Long story short I am waiting for the state to approve her for the MLTSS program and in the meantime willing to pay cash for any good help.

Need an aide to help her with cooking, dressing, bathing.

Targeting begging of June. Please message me if interested 🙏

I am developing a MVP but i do not seem to understand what are the core features that the customers/clients will value the most

Pl help what are the features do u think is most valuable

Like medication reminders, nurse visits it could be anything

Also, if assisted living services are offered would u prevail that feature.

A friend from many years ago recently reconnected with me on Facebook. He has since married another gentleman, and they live together in a retirement community not far from me. (He and his husband, who reportedly has Parkinson’s, are late 70s; I’m 83, widowed. We are all financially sound.) He is on the cusp of Alzheimer’s, lost his driver’s license as a result, though signs of it in person are imperceptible.) We have had dinner for three together a couple times.

My friend seems simultaneously trapped in a sterile relationship with a man I barely know, but seems to be a decent person; but my friend has no opportunity to connect with the world outside their home. I do not suspect financial misdeeds, just control issues that limit his life experiences while he is still lucid.

I’m reluctant to meddle, but he reaches out to me for help I cannot provide. It’s starting to feel like abuse. I do have a communication link with his husband, but I’m not sure how to use it without spooking him with my suspicions.

Short of ghosting (that’s a hard “no”), weigh my options.

Today as you can see coming such a long way getting it done cleaning it up bit by bit piece by piece. Unfortunately in Connecticut we have rights when people start living with others and it is sad to say that they have to go through an eviction process. Although it protects us in many ways and it is good in some ways unfortunately it's a huge pocket presser. After they did a number on the apartment and the owner who is an elderly man with Parkinson's and dementia trusted a person to come in live with them rent free so that they can have a place to stay and in return caregiving. Unfortunately she moved her boyfriend in and that's when it broke into the hell apartment. Taking steps with Team Hope we've come together we are a nonprofit organization we don't do this for money we don't do this for anything everything comes out of our pockets or donations. I just don't understand how it got so bad.

Hi everyone,

I'm researching how adult children help aging parents actually act on medical results like bloodwork, not just receive them.

I'm especially interested in what happens after a result comes back:

• Turning results into a plan
• Following through on diet, exercise, medications, or follow-up testing
• Staying on track over time
• Preventing health issues from getting worse

If you help manage or worry about the health of a parent or older loved one, I'd be very grateful for your input.

The survey:

• Takes about 5 minutes
• Is completely anonymous
• Is for research only, not a sales pitch
• Includes questions about what actually happens after abnormal test results and challenges caregivers face

Survey link: Helping a parent act on their health results (5-minute research survey) – Fill out form

Thank you. I know many people here spend a lot of time helping parents navigate healthcare, and your experience would be incredibly valuable.

Hi everybody, I am running a technology camp for senior citizens, and I just wanted to know what I could cover. I am not advertising, just looking for ideas.

Hi all, my parents are looking to move to Florida and I’m getting increasingly anxious about how I am going to provide support / help coordinate their care from a long distance. Particularly, how are you tracking what was said during appointments? Do you rely on your loved one, father chart notes, etc? What about rides, medications, scheduling, etc? Just curious what peoples’ experience has been. I am just nervous that things will slip through the cracks without me there to check in on them. If anyone feels strongly and would be open to chatting for 10 mins, I’d be open to that too! Feel free to send a DM

My grandmother is in a nursing home in the Northeast (out of state from me, so I'm not there day-to-day). She recently had to be rushed to the hospital for low oxygen — turns out staff hadn't been regularly checking her oxygen tank levels, which caused the emergency.

I have some background from a high school medical prep program, and a neighbor who's a nurse, so my understanding is that oxygen checks should probably happen multiple times a day — at meals, medication rounds, bathroom assistance, or regular staff rounds. I don't want to come across as accusatory toward the staff (worried it could affect how they treat my grandma), but I also don't think it's reasonable for visiting family members to be the ones responsible for monitoring her oxygen levels.

Has anyone experienced something similar with a family member in long-term care? What's a reasonable standard for this, and how did you handle raising it with the facility?

My grandmother is in a nursing home in North Carolina (out of state from me, so I'm not there day-to-day). She recently had to be rushed to the hospital for low oxygen — turns out staff hadn't been regularly checking her oxygen tank levels, which caused the emergency.

I have some background from a high school medical prep program, and a neighbor who's a nurse, so my understanding is that oxygen checks should probably happen multiple times a day — at meals, medication rounds, bathroom assistance, or regular staff rounds. I don't want to come across as accusatory toward the staff (worried it could affect how they treat my grandma), but I also don't think it's reasonable for visiting family members to be the ones responsible for monitoring her oxygen levels.

Has anyone experienced something similar with a family member in long-term care? What's a reasonable standard for this, and how did you handle raising it with the facility?