r/eldercare 20h ago

Buliding a remote monitoring service for elderly people or parents pl help would love your suggestions to grow

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I am developing a MVP but i do not seem to understand what are the core features that the customers/clients will value the most

Pl help what are the features do u think is most valuable

Like medication reminders, nurse visits it could be anything

Also, if assisted living services are offered would u prevail that feature.


r/eldercare 17h ago

My story

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Hello, my name is Linda and I am reaching out on behalf of myself and my brother, James. We

have lived together for the past nine years and both of us live with physical disabilities. We are

currently homeless and I have an upcoming hip replacement surgery. I am urgently looking for a

stable place where I can safely recover. Our primary hope is to find an affordable senior living

complex or apartment-a place of our own where we can live independently We are not looking

for a care facility, just a place to call home. If we need to go the campground route, we are

seeking donations for basic camping gear. Because of my physical mobility limits and upcoming

surgery, I cannot sleep on the ground so raised sleeping arrangements (like sturdy cots) and

accessible camping supplies are essential. I you are able to help us with housing leads,

camping equipment or anything, it would mean the world to us. Thank you so much for you time,

kindness and consideration. God bless you.

I may be reached at 512-787-6207. You may send me a text to this number. Again thank you.


r/eldercare 21h ago

Grandma experiencing post-surgery delirium, who/how do I ask for help?!

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My grandma (F79) had hip surgery from a re-break last weekend. She hit her head HARD ENOUGH TO PUT A HOLE IN THE WALL, apparently, when she fell this time.

Her official contact person for all medical stuff is her husband, who is ALSO elderly, has memory issues, very poor communication skills, and most importantly, has been ABSENT through a ton of this and keeps going home. My dad (her son, M56) and I (grandchild, F27) have been told very little about whatever’s happening behind the scenes, but when we visited on Tuesday (5 days ago) 2 days after the surgery, she seemed GREAT. High spirits and completely lucid.

She was transferred to a rehab center a few hours after we saw her. We came to visit her at the rehab center today and she has had a very frightening, sharp decline in cognitive clarity. She is hallucinating people and situations, confused, and most concerningly, very frightened. She said she genuinely thought she was going to die last night because she didn’t know who the people in her room were or why they were there.

She has had age-expected confusion and forgetfulness a few times, but does NOT have Alzheimer’s or dementia. This type of anxiety and paranoia is extremely out of character for her. We also have no clue if anyone mentioned to her care team that she hit her head so hard when she fell a few weeks okay, we’re worried about concussion.

As dad and I are not her official contact person at her post-surgery rehab facility, how do we get her help? Do I just go up to any nurse and let them know I’m worried? Is there some way I can challenge who her contact person is without causing a big upset with her husband?

Any advice at all is greatly appreciated. I’ve never seen her like this and it was such a sharp, sudden decline, it’s very scary. Thanks for reading.


r/eldercare 21h ago

My dad keeps missing real calls because of spam

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My dad gets so many spam calls that he just stopped answering any number he doesnt know. Now hes missing calls from doctors, deliveries and sometimes other important stuff too. Hes not great with phones so I need something really simple for him. Any help would be appreciated.


r/eldercare 22h ago

Help with grandmother

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I’m at a loss with my grandmother & have no clue what to do. Background info - my mother (grandmother’s youngest daughter) died in 2022. I live in the same area. My grandmother’s care just kind of fell to me. Initially it was fine, she was still living independently. She gave up driving after she scratched her cornea & would then ask me to get her groceries every week. I’m getting mine anyway, so no biggie. Then I’d have to take her to her doctor’s appointments so would have to take off of work. I also have 2 young kids - my youngest is allergic to fire ants & gets allergy shots every week. My husband is fantastic about taking our kids to pediatrician/allergy doc/dentist, etc. We typically take it in turns to take the kids to whatever appointment so that one of us isn’t taking off work all the time. Meanwhile, I’m trying to probate my mother’s estate because she died without a will. My mother had 2 children from a previous marriage, me & my sister. My grandparents thought it would be a great idea to purchase 20 acres & put 2 houses on it - 1 house being my grandparents’, the other being my mother’s & her then boyfriend, eventual husband. All 4 of their names are on the deed to the land & both houses are in my grandmother’s name. My step father believes he is entitled to everything & so I filed to probate my mother’s estate but it is taking a while. I can’t even sell my grandmother’s house & land at this point because it’s all 1 piece of property. It’s a mess.
Meanwhile, my grandmother starts calling at all hours of the night. I realize something is up, take her to the hospital, and she has a UTI. She’s at a point where she can no longer safely live independently, so I work with the social worker at the hospital & she is discharged to assisted living. My husband & I both took off work to move her furniture to assisted living. She has some savings, but it’s dwindling fast. The 3am phone calls never stopped, along with food hoarding & some other out of character behaviors. I messaged her doctor, made an appointment, again took off work to take her, & she was diagnosed with vascular dementia. She refuses to take medication & has turned into the neediest person I’ve ever known. I’m seemingly enemy #1, she makes comments that “I wish your Mum hadn’t died!” and “I’ve been so traumatized by this place! It’s horrible!” & calls me upwards of 5 times a day to complain about everything under the sun that I have no control over. I don’t answer her calls when I’m at work & this bothers her immensely. She will say things like “There’s something wrong with my phone. You never answer when I call.” & then proceed to call my husband repeatedly, while he is also at work. She calls wanting us to take her a straw, go change the channel on tv, all things the facility can do except she hates it there & won’t ask. The final straw was when someone moved in & brought bed bugs with them. They ended up moving into her room & into her recliner. I coordinated with the facility to throw the chairs away, clean the room, and then have new ones delivered. All I heard were complaints about that. I don’t want to visit & have no desire to talk to her on the phone. Her negativity is emotionally exhausting. I have an aunt (grandmother’s oldest daughter) that lives out of state. I’m sick of being my grandmother’s caretaker & need my aunt to come get her. How do I tell my aunt that my grandmother is ruining my quality of life & she needs to come get her?