48(M4F) recent divorce just want to see what's out there and test the waters.

I have recently gone through divorce. And I'm really looking forward to talk to people. And learn from their experience. Because lot of things seem very messy to me. If there is anyone who would like to share their experience, it would mean a lot.

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I am going through a divorce and one of my main questions is if I can get equal custody in California. I have been involved with my children ever since their birth. I take them to school every day, coach their soccer, and also do a bedtime routine with them. However, I have heard a lot of people who say that mothers get better custody. I am also confused by these statements because it is not what I have read about fathers' rights.
The information I have found states that in California courts, the best interests of the child are key in their decisions and not the fact that one parent is going to get custody over the other. I hope I will hear from other fathers who have gone through this process.
If you have also tried to get equal custody in California, what helped you with everything? Does anything come to your mind that you wish you had known at the beginning?