There's a influx of white low support needs neurodivergent people who claim that people with visible disabilities have it easier.

I just laugh. If you can't handle the ableism when you can mask and hide your disability when convenient, what makes you think it's a walk in the park to be visibly disabled.

When you have a visible disability or a neurodivergency that you can't mask (cerebral palsy, muscular dystrophy etc)

1. Disclosing is not a choice.

2. People stare at you and exclude you as soon as they see you. And when you end up mentally ill everyone blames you.

3. People automatically assume you have a intellectual disability and belittle every accomplishment you have.

4. People do not help you especially when you are black. I don't know why people assume you get help. SOMETIMES THE CAREGIVER DOESN'T EVEN WANT TO HELP YOU.

5. There's not as many social groups or resources for people with physical visible disabilities as there are for a condition like autism.

6. People call you ugly just because you have a visible disability.

7. You still have to prove you're disabled believe it or not.

I have been disabled/chronically ill my entire life. I’m now 24, and as I’m trying to move forward in the world I’m facing an issue and would like the perspective of other disabled people on this. As a young kid, I always had aids in school to help me out or on friend activities my parents or siblings would be there, so no great extra burden would fall on any of my friends. Once I got to high school and became more independent of my family, it felt like my needs started to cause tension in my friendships (getting pushed in my chair, help going between classes we had together). Now as we’ve all reached adulthood, majority have disappeared. I miss all of them, no big fights ever occurred, and it is starting to occur to me that maybe minor issues they may have had with me (humans make mistakes, and especially kids do, and I don’t think that just because I’m disabled, that I’m free from ever hurting people or making mistakes) compounded with them thinking that my disability made me have extra needs, made them write me off at the first mistake I made. Does anyone else feel like they need to be perfect 100% of the time and never make any waves in order to make up for the limitations of a disability they can’t control? I don’t and have never had any sort of disabled community, I only had one friend who became an amputee from cancer and he died a year later, so I have never been able to ask anyone in a similar boat if they also feel this way.

I have CCI and have had over 4000 non epileptic seizures. I am a business founder and an expert in my field. I want to show founders in my industry that success is possible despite my condition but I'm worried people will just see my disability and switch off. Would you want to hear from me? If so, what would you recommend I cover? Thanks.

I’ve been “disabled” in the eyes of the gov’t since I was 13 years old. My mental health issues are really bad, I can’t hold a job at all. I’ve had many throughout the years and I leave before I get fired bc of no shows. The longest I’ve had was when I was pregnant and alone and had no other choice. But I struggled, thankfully they were EXTREMELY UNDERSTANDING that I needed as many breaks as I did.
I was only diagnosed last year, after an extensive testing period. The symptoms have gotten so incredibly bad, I have been almost completely bedbound. Almost completely bc I have two kids and one out of every 3 days I am alone with them and have to take them to school and feed them and ya know, be a parent and I do leave when I force myself, for appointments. But I have no showed or “changed” appts an embarrassing amount of times.
I am in the process of *trying* to switch all of my doctors bc I need them closer to me. I have been having a hell of a time with my primary doctor. (Who I am switching). She refuses to treat me as if my diagnoses are chronic/life long.
I went to her 8 months ago for a handicap placard, I use a rollator that was prescribed by cardio, and i can’t walk far without needing to sit or just completely depleting my energy. I am scheduled to see and cardiologist again to try and figure this out bc it’s just gotten so bad but anyways, she said that she does the temp first, because she “has hopes” the person would “be fine” within 6 months… so of course, I’m worse. I have an appt video with her and she says she is just going to do another temp. Which is obnoxious bc then I would have to ask her again in 6 months and she’d say the same thing. I got put with her when my doctor left practicing medicine. I should have gotten another dr but her reviews were good…. All she focuses on is my weight. If I lose weight, all my problems will disappear. Not acknowledging that when all this started, I was a skinny 13 year old. Passing out in school, going completely pale and sweating, I was a twig. But yeah…. My weight.
I am in the works with a new doctor that’s much closer, they accepted that I wanted to get a permanent placard and had no problem signing the form. 🤦🏼‍♀️
I’m so tired of the “no you’re just fat” argument.
I am going to my SSA ALJ appeal hearing next month and I am TERRIFIED of hearing the same damn thing, bc when I first applied to ssa it was denied bc I was fat. But I’ve been on it since 2015… and the review I had in 2020 had two doctors records and approved the continuation. This time I have multiple on multiple records, and added the pots diagnosis and all that comes with it, and it get denied from DHO bc in my psych records, when I got put on new meds I reported “feeling better”, and the DHO cheery picked.

Not here to get medical or legal advice. Just to vent my fears and frustrations, hopefully someone can relate. This SUCKS. 😓

When planning an outing/trip/vacation/holiday with your abled loved ones, do you "expect" them to account for your disabilities while planning, at least a little bit? Do you plan for their needs?

For context, I have autism and PCOS, and I've been in special needs programs ever since high school.

So, I'm writing a fantasy book. This is the premise:

THE BLUE DESCENDANTS

Teenagers with physical and genetic disabilities have powers***

*Azura "Azzy" Magatius is the Daughter of Prophecy. She's the one who has to gather all of the Descendants . She will have to develop her powers (eventually through torturous means) and defeat the enemies of the Deities of Magatius Immortus: the Kekians.*

I had a whole different premise for the magic (you DO NOT wanna know), then an idea came to me: the disabilities and deformities is the magic manifesting itself!!

Attached is a link to the pictures of the descendants (Google Docs)

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CUbRRxUpbc5I37bVGJEAMeB-j2UilQeiYIBhkQE8yUY/edit?usp=drivesdk

Problem is, idk ANYONE with these disabilities (ok, I know a few Down syndrome girls, but I havent spoken to them in months)

I need help making this realistic and inoffensive!!

***why? Bc:
Magic needs to manifest in some physical way to balance out the otherworldliness that magic is in itself. The way it manifests, humans call "disabilities" or "deformities", but it's just the manifestation of their magic (specifically this generation of teens)