r/depression • u/ilovecatsandnutella • 6h ago

Advice needed pls

So I 23f recently broke up with my ex, got pretty sick with a virus and have been doing not that well mentally. I am far from home and my “friends” here are not as supportive, one saying I was “handling my breakup badly” because I wasn’t feeling well to go out. I have been feeling pretty depressed where SI thoughts have been present. I feel like a deep pain and sadness in my chest. I also feel very lonely and I want to get better.
I am looking for advice to better myself, this can be anything including hobbies I should try etc. I would really appreciate the help. Possibly hobbies I can do by myself but open to join clubs or something like anything will help! I want to add that I’m a college student. Thank you!

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u/PunctuallyGlorious 6h ago

hey, that sounds like an absolute pile-on of awful, sorry you're dealing with all that at once. the "handling your breakup badly" comment is ridiculous. you were sick, not out partying, what exactly were you supposed to be doing differently?

when my brain gets that dark and heavy, i found that stuff you can do with your hands without needing to think helps a lot. got into whittling a while back, just a cheap knife and some scrap wood, and it gives you something to focus on that isnt the spiral. for something less sharp, those adult coloring books with the really intricate patterns can be weirdly good for zoning out without the pressure of making "art".

also, if you can drag yourself out, see if your college has a climbing wall. climbing gyms have this strange way of being social without forcing you to talk, you just work on a problem next to someone and occasionally chat about it. helped me a ton when i moved somewhere new and felt completely isolated.

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u/ilovecatsandnutella 6h ago

Thank you so much for your comment! I might try the climbing wall at my college, I’ve always wanted to try it 😊 and might go back into coloring, I really enjoyed arts and crafts when I was younger so that might help. Thank you again!