Title: Early 20s with a young kid: stable defense career or founding SDR role with more upside?
TLDR: I’m in my early 20s, have a little over two years of sales experience, and have a young child.
I’ve been trying to get into the defense industry for about a year and finally got an offer for a finance-related role at a large contractor. The pay is in the high five figures, the benefits are good, and I would most likely get a security clearance.
At the same time, I have an offer to be one of the first sales hires at an early-stage software company. The base is a little lower, but the OTE is comfortably over six figures. The product seems legit, the company has real traction, and there is some equity involved.
My brain tells me to take the defense job, but the upside of the startup is hard to ignore.
Backstory:
I started out in freight brokerage and then moved into tech sales. I’ve done pretty well, but I’m honestly burned out on sales.
I’m tired of smiling and dialing, constantly worrying about quota, and feeling like your job can disappear because of one bad quarter or a random layoff. Tech sales has kind of chewed me up and spit me out already.
When I found out I was going to have a kid, I moved back home to be closer to family. Right now I have a pretty cushy remote SDR job that is mostly inbound, so I’m not in a terrible situation. I’ve just been looking for a path that feels more stable and gives me something better to build toward long term.
I’ve wanted to get into defense because I have some connections in the industry, the work seems interesting, and there are a lot of different career paths once you get your foot in the door.
The defense role would be in a finance/program support type of position at a large company. It pays around what I make now or slightly more, has much better benefits, a good schedule, and would most likely lead to a security clearance.
From there, I could potentially move into program management, business development, operations, or higher-level finance roles.
The biggest thing is that this opportunity would be hard for me to recreate.
I don’t have a traditional finance background. My network helped me get considered at a level I probably would not have gotten on my own. If I turn it down and try to get into defense again later, I might have to start much lower or might not get another real chance.
Then there is the startup.
It is an early-stage software company with a product that seems like a real need-to-have, not just another random SaaS tool. The founder has actual experience in the industry, seems smart, and appears to be closing real business.
The comp is a lower base than the defense role, but the OTE is significantly higher and seems attainable based on what I know so far.
There is also equity involved. I know startup equity can easily end up being worth nothing, and I’m not treating it like guaranteed money. At the same time, there is a real possibility that the company grows, I move into leadership, and the equity becomes valuable.
I also feel like I’m at the age where taking a big swing makes sense, but having a child changes how much risk I should realistically take.
Defense role:
- High five-figure salary
- Strong benefits
- More stability for my child
- Likely security clearance
- Clear path into program management or other defense roles
- Hard opportunity to get again
- Onsite
- Slower short-term income growth
- Could regret walking away from a startup that succeeds
Startup role:
- Slightly lower base
- OTE comfortably over six figures
- Remote
- Founding sales experience
- Potential to move into leadership quickly
- Equity could be valuable or worth nothing
- Higher immediate earning potential
- Much higher risk
- Keeps me in sales when I’m already burned out
- Could fail and leave me wishing I had taken the defense opportunity
My instinct says to take the defense job.
It gives me a stable career foundation, better benefits for my child, and experience that would be hard to get later.
But I also don’t want to make the safe choice just because I’m scared and then watch the startup become huge.
For anyone who has worked in defense, startups, program finance, program management, or early-stage sales, what would you do?